Anonymous #1 5w

i mean exclusively dating people who look a certain way without even getting to know them or in some cases without seeing them is discriminatory by definition. Which is weird and very superficial imo

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Anonymous OP 5w

Sure it’s superficial, but I wouldn’t want to have someone date me if they didn’t find me attractive lol

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Anonymous #1 5w

like women who refuse to date men under 6ft are actively discriminating against shorter men and like no there isnt a rule against that, date whoever u want but ima judge u for that

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Anonymous #1 5w

and imo something like height shouldn't make a person less or more attractive

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Anonymous OP 5w

Ofc it shouldn’t be but that’s not how it works haha

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Anonymous #1 5w

i'm just not content with discrimination

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Anonymous OP 5w

I guess we have different definitions of discrimination and arguing a definition is just gonna go in circles

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Anonymous loverboy 5w

yes preferences, but im talking abt requirements babes.

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Anonymous OP 5w

So like you would agree men who refuse to consider obese women as romantic partners are also discriminating?

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Anonymous #3 5w

Is it discriminatory for a man to not consider a woman as a romantic partner bc her body count is what he perceives as too high? Like lmao

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Anonymous #3 5w

Maybe we shouldn’t be throwing around discrimination

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Anonymous #3 5w

yes

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Anonymous #3 5w

you are the only one that is throwing around discrimination babes. these two examples don't affect the persons physical appearance which is what i'm referring too bc often times that can't be changed. however someone having a child isn't really comparable that nor is it comparable to someone having a high sexual history. one of them will directly affect the relationship as the other is just mostly irrelevant as it is in the past.

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Anonymous OP 5w

it's a lot less understandable to tell someone "hey i like you but im not ready to be there for your kids, and i understand that comes with dating you" since you can't not be involved within that childs life. however, if you go "hey, i like you but i just don't gingers." that's just straight up disrespectful and discriminatory

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Anonymous OP 5w

more not less*^

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Anonymous OP 5w

Lmao not being attracted to your partner also directly affects the relationship babes

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Anonymous #3 5w

yet with things like the ones i've listed don't come from a place of inherent bias?? no one is born only being attracted to people over 6 feet tall. Abraham Lincoln was extremely tall but also widely considered unattractive. Tom Holland is like 5'9 and is very much considered attractive. It's so superficial to automatically assume you won't be attracted or will be attracted to someone bc of their height.

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Anonymous #3 5w

that’s not the point here. Not being attracted to someone isn’t discriminatory, obviously. Refusing to even consider anyone outside a specific set of preferences is, especially if this is a person you already know and like. “I’d date you if you weren’t black :(“ is discriminatory.

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Anonymous OP 5w

Oh I had a whole paragraph typed out lmao

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Anonymous #4 5w

And I’m saying is that not the same thing as saying “I would date you if you didn’t have 10 bodies” like lmao that’s the same thing

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Anonymous #3 5w

Nah cause that’s not an immutable characteristic

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Anonymous #3 5w

except it isn't? like what sea taco said it's not a immutable characteristic. sexual history is something that can reflect on a person character and can be a reason for not dating somebody. it's only discrimination if it's you reject someone based on a characteristic they cannot change. height, race, eye color, etc. since that doesn't reflect their character. no one was not born having 10 bodies

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Anonymous #3 5w

imo it’s less about race being a more immutable characteristic, and more about the implications of each. Body count at least partially tells you about someone’s attitude towards sex, but I would say setting a hard ceiling there is also silly, although it’s important to consider. Race implies… basically nothing about how your relationship would go. Something like infertility or some sort of genetic disease is also an immutable characteristic, but may have more impact on your relationship.

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