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Fellas, do you still invite the friend knowing if he accepts he’s going to visibly not have fun or enjoy himself?

Anonymous 18h

This is actually a really tough decision. On one hand, I’d hate to ostracize him and basically plan a whole outing without his presence, but on the other hand, if I do bring him along, he’d have a terrible time anyways. In the end, I would still extend an invite to him to be cordial. If he doesn’t accept, that’s that. If he does, I’ll try to make him feel more welcomed.

Anonymous

#1 18h

That’s where I’m at. I hate leaving people out, but he accepts invites for the company not the activities, and I don’t think he realizes how he comes across bringing the mood down

Anonymous

OP 18h

If he really wants the company, then I think you should extend some duo invites where’s it’s just the two of you. Maybe you touch on how his presence affects others, maybe not, but I think he’d appreciate the personal experience.

Anonymous

#1 17h

Gonna be straight with you, just be a man and tell him how you feel. Maybe he is having fun and just doesn’t realize how he comes off. Maybe he’s in need of a reason to not go. Who knows. Be a little rough and confront him on it.