Anonymous #3 3w

Literally. If you are respectful it’s fine, staring like I’m the only girl you ever seen is not

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Anonymous #4 3w

Go up and approach. Better than staring creepily

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Anonymous OP 3w

its funny how yall literally do the same exact shit😂i have so many women who stare at me with “fuck me” eyes and constantly trying to flirt with me. ive even had ones who’ve openly stated they have boyfriends do that. i honestly have a hard time trusting a lot of yall these days. im told i shouldnt approach because its creepy, but then im also touch i should approach because its creepy to look or glance. no winning with yall. the standards are all over the fucking floor and dating is so cooked

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Anonymous #4 3w

Ur blaming us instead of communicating with us. Do you like girls at all?

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Anonymous #7 3w

For all of those people still working up the courage to make a move I suggest glancing over playfully rather than starting, with a smile as well. It’s not as creepy as a stare, and it can give you a sense of how she feels as well if she reciprocates it

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Anonymous #7 3w

But at the end of the day somebody’s gotta say something 🤷‍♂️

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Anonymous #4 3w

Bro who is telling you not to approach cmon now

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Anonymous #4 3w

I have to put a little bit of blame on the women here but for the most part, don’t stare directly at us for an awkward amount of time. For a girl, one glance could be nothing, multiple means you might be interested and when you approach a woman just read her body language. If you approach and she’s not interested she’ll be short and generally try and turn away. Looking directly at you, smiling, engaging in conversation are all good signs

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Anonymous #8 3w

And if you can’t read body language?

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Anonymous #1 3w

Or they do all the interested things and still are not interested?

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Anonymous #8 3w

As a guy I feel like guys misinterpret the idea that some ways of approaching can make women uncomfortable as approaching women makes them uncomfortable

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Anonymous #7 3w

I mean as a guy, my women friends tell me they would never want to be approached

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Anonymous #1 3w

I take them at their word 🤷‍♂️

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Anonymous #1 3w

You can’t make someone interested. The body language is tough I will say, and something you kind of learn with experience, so the one instance I do put some blame on women is not being more direct. Like it was a learning process for me to get the body language, but “no” is as clear as day

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Anonymous #1 3w

Some women don’t that’s not something you can know before you meet people, but I’ve had successes so I think it’s worth it

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Anonymous #7 3w

I guess, I personally think women *should* approach if it’s a stranger/unknown person, also I don’t expect them to do so. This is due to the dynamics of safety that would be more likely avoided compared to when men approach

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Anonymous #1 3w

My women friends mostly tell me they like being approached so idk

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Anonymous #1 3w

I do agree with you there, but due to social conditioning women are just far less likely/willing to do it. So I think if you have that mindset you might just have to do more waiting, or rely more on meeting people through friends and apps which is all fine as well

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Anonymous #7 3w

Yea, too many variables and men are just opting out and I get it, tons of risks for such a small chance, I wouldn’t expect to be approached by a random person and don’t expect to do it myself 🤷‍♂️

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Anonymous #7 3w

Sure. And social conditioning could change if men continue to not approach en masse, but with dating apps I doubt it would unfortunately

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Anonymous #1 3w

I don’t think it’s as much of a risk as you think it is honestly, but I understand. I personally have a date from a cold approach literally tomorrow so I’m super excited I think we should all do it more often

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Anonymous #1 3w

And honestly, with how it’s becoming rarer for men to do it I think women are starting to see it more as a pleasant surprise than before

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Anonymous #7 3w

I mean I complement people sometimes and women are much more likely to act negatively to even a platonic complement from men (in my experience).Honestly unless I know them I don’t have enough of a reason to talk to them more than in passing

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Anonymous #1 3w

That’s all fine. It isn’t really my experience tbh so idk

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Anonymous #1 3w

Personally I would rather be approached than do the approaching but I def don’t speak for all women. Some women will play along just for the attention they’re getting but I’ve approached men before and it’s never worked for me. Dating apps are convenient but it’s like fishing in a pond with a ton of fish but only a few that will actually bite IMO😂

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Anonymous #7 3w

Just my experience, multiple times I try to just be friendly in passing and they look like I shot myself 🫩, and I think many others unfortunately have this happen to them and it just makes you feel awful and I should be allowed to feel awful for that, and not have to stay stoic

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Anonymous #8 3w

I think dating apps have been such a negative on society, but I participate so idk. And I met my only gf from an app so it can work

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Anonymous #8 3w

You realize your whole thing is just how men experience dating right? I would rather be approached but women that I have approached have only led me on or not wanted me. And I’ve never been approached so 🫩😭

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Anonymous #8 3w

Approaching will naturally work very rarely. It’s worked for me like 3 times out of probably more than a dozen tries, but it’s SOOOOOO worth it when it works

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Anonymous #1 3w

Yeah I would love to be approached, but I doubt it’ll ever happen. I think it would feel good

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Anonymous #7 3w

I mean u seem lucky I am like 0/10 naturally lol

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Anonymous #1 3w

There is so much luck involved!

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Anonymous #1 3w

Also like not to gas myself up too much, but I know I’m a pretty charming person and at least above average attractiveness which all plays a factor I’m sure

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Anonymous #7 3w

It is a lot of work! I’ve been working on it myself as well

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