Anonymous #1 1w

i really is a man thing tho

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Anonymous #3 1w

Not really! Vast majority of men are not like this.

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Anonymous #2 1w

I did 🤝

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Anonymous #1 1w

Statistics would not support this statement.

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Anonymous #4 1w

Actually they do support that statement.

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Anonymous #4 1w

Provide them then.

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Anonymous #10 1w

Nope just men

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Anonymous #12 1w

Jesus

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Anonymous #7 1w

Please stop using small dick as an insult 😭

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Anonymous #3 1w

Um what’s stopping another woman from saying this?

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https://share.google/aimode/9dQIZEAZxxg55sFyU

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Anonymous loverboy 1w

Um

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Anonymous loverboy 1w

Not all men, but always a man.

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Anonymous loverboy 1w

Also, you’re absolutely one of those evil fucks. OP just got told to get r*ped and you’re trying to argue that SHE’S just as bad as HIM? Nah, you’re definitely on a list.

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Anonymous #1 1w

There’s definitely a problem with men committing or threatening to commit sex crimes towards women/girls. You saying it’s not a man thing is reductive and part of the problem.

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Anonymous #10 1w

I cannot express how reductive these kinds of comments are

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Anonymous #22 1w

Respectfully, if u can’t decipher that the vast majority of men are not like this, and have virtually no control over the ones who are, then u will alienate our allies

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Anonymous #1 1w

IMO it should be a conversation about how we can spot potential harmful people and not harbor them together (unfortunately happens in many different communities!)

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Anonymous #1 1w

I didn’t say all men are like this. However, an alarmingly large chunk of you are and it’s important to address this. You should be more offended about what the evil maniac said to the OP instead of getting upset with her for saying “why do men?”

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Anonymous #22 1w

I am appalled from them, but they didn’t dm me so there isn’t much I can do about it unfortunately. I have no power to report them, however when generalizations come in it only widens divides

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Anonymous #1 1w

I’m not really upset, it’s just a framing that leads to toxic and unhealthy mindsets

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Anonymous #1 1w

You could’ve responded with “I’m so sorry this happened to you, no one deserves this. Hopefully you reported them,” but you instead decided to go the “not all men” route. No empathy on your end, just “not all men.”

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Anonymous #22 1w

Ok bro u clearly have no desire to have a conversation

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Anonymous #1 1w

Maybe upset wasn’t the right word, but you were certainly more bothered by her caption over the threat she received. Responding to women’s negative experiences by saying “not all men” is part of the problem.

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Anonymous #1 1w

Bahaha and neither do you, “BRO.”

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Anonymous #22 1w

Ur the one downvoting and mad 😭it’s a toxic mindset that is not good. People that dm OP are not savable, but OP is someone with a good heart and can learn!! I’ve been sexually battered multiple times (and yes this is not nearly what many women go through I’m not comparing) unfortunately, I do not say “why do women” in ask women cause ik that’s not going to help me and will only create divide. Because there are widespread problems and when there are generalizations it actually doesn’t do what is

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Anonymous #1 1w

Intended

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Anonymous #1 1w

Lol you wouldn’t be getting downvoted if you hadn’t done the typical man thing by saying “not all men,” that’s on you lil bro. Well I would certainly hope you don’t go around saying “not all women” because it’s obviously not at all the same thing, you’d just look like an incel lol.

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Anonymous #22 1w

I mean it’s just u downvoting me but ok lol. Perhaps actually ask questions and work for solutions rather than say a generic phrase that literally just causes divide 👍I would gladly be on board

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Anonymous #1 1w

This is precisely the problem with so many of yall tbh. Instead of offering empathy or your condolences when women talk about their negative experiences with men, you guys always have to hit us with the “not all men.” Women usually say “why do men?” as a reaction to centuries of misogyny and violence at the hands of men, but a lot of you just don’t wanna admit that.

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Anonymous #22 1w

Ok yes exactly we are getting somewhere! I think we can find a way to both offer empathy but also point out how this thinking can become unhealthy + not helpful we can find ways to both point out the issues and also not generalize to people (in any direction!)

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Anonymous #1 1w

OP saying “why do men?” will never carry the same weight or harm as threats like the one she got and so on. It just won’t.

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Anonymous #22 1w

I agree! But I’m not talking about equal weight, I’m saying how in order to build a coalition of men and women to fight a patriarchal society (which most men are victims in) putting away potential allies is not what I want

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Anonymous #1 1w

Then educate men on how to not act like sociopaths and stop trying to control women’s language lol

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Anonymous #22 1w

I unfortunately don’t have many men I interact with! I only really interact with my friends who are women or nonbinary 😭

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Anonymous #1 1w

Hmm I can see both sides and I’m glad we’re having this conversation

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Anonymous #1 1w

But in the future I will keep in mind? Idrk when it may come up but yea

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Anonymous #1 1w

Then I hope you don’t go around saying things like “not really a men thing, just a horrific person thing” if they ever say “why do men?” 😭

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Anonymous #22 1w

I mean if they do sometimes, and when they do I may pull them aside after and say how while I recognize their experiences, phrases like that can sometimes make me feel “othered” or “tokenized” when it’s just me.

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Anonymous #12 1w

No literally like I’m upvoting her comments I think it actually is a good convo!

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Anonymous #1 1w

And honestly my friends are great and we have found a great balance with jokes and banter and also feeling included

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Anonymous #1 1w

Yeah stop doing that and maybe ask them why they’re saying those kinds of things. They’ve probably had enough shitty and even dangerous experiences with men if they’re saying things like that.

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Anonymous #22 1w

We have a great relationship and we have mutual understanding and vulnerability from my bad experiences with women and theirs with men and I am very greatful for them!

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Anonymous #1 1w

Keep it that way

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Anonymous loverboy 1w

i’m going to forever haunt you and put spells on you because you are genuinely a very rude and miserable person maybe i’ll put a therapy spell on you

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Anonymous #1 1w

Not all men but usually a man

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Anonymous #10 1w

Not all men… but usually a man

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Anonymous #1 1w

Not always men, but NEVER A WOMAN

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Anonymous #27 1w

There do be some…

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Anonymous #7 1w

I’m confused, this could very well be another woman, why’re we automatically assuming it could be a dude?

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Anonymous #15 1w

Did u mean to reply to 27?

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Anonymous #27 1w

Also no. 27 I know for a matter of fact there are women like this because I’ve met them, women aren’t some paragon

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Anonymous #7 1w

Yeah

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