Anonymous #1 4w

why?

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Anonymous OP 4w

You can’t raise a child in a vacuum and we’d rather not let our children be bullied in school and we want them to relate to their peers

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that group being?

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Anonymous #1 4w

i'm not gonna raise them in a vaccum, but i'm gonna teach my daughters and soms how to cook, clean, maybe even get one of those fisher price kitchens, as well as how to mow the lawn, change a tire, do basically household handy work. When i was growing up i wasn't taught how to do basic handy work and now that i live alone i have to pay other people to do it for me. My brother wasn't ever really taught how to clean properly and his wife is on the process of teaching him.

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Anonymous OP 4w

That’s different

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Anonymous #1 4w

how is it different lol? i wasn't taught handy work bc i was a girl. it wasn't an expectation for me because of my gender, and before there were men in the house that would be able to do it but now im like 23 and can't name any tools found in a classic toolsbox besides like hammer and screwdriver

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Anonymous OP 4w

I wasn’t talking about skills

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Anonymous #1 4w

I more meant interest that don’t relate to a particular skill

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I mean probably will begin with toys that boys typically like but if my son wants to and expresses interest to play with barbies im not gonna refuse to buy him one. i'm also not gonna buy a barbie dreamhouse and make him play with it either. so that's why i said im gonna raise them gender neutral and not deem anything for one specific gender. from toys to books, to life skills.

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Anonymous OP 4w

same goes with my daughter and as a girl who has a lot of "girlie" interest, i'll definitely introduce tea parties and make overs to her but if she would rather play with dinosaurs or superheros or something that's chill too. idc lol i won't be hurt if she isn't girly and im not gonna force her to be.

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Anonymous OP 4w

Mm I’d be careful about boys and dolls but the girl I wouldn’t worry about if they like dinosaurs and super heroes, those really are for everyone

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Anonymous #1 4w

so are dolls. i work in merchandise at a very popular theme park and you'd ge surprised how many young boys want plushies and dolls.

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Anonymous OP 4w

I mean plushies are cool but like Barbie dolls idk. I ain’t want my son to get made fun of. If they choose girly interest later in life cool but I ain’t setting them up to get bullied

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Anonymous #1 4w

i also wouldn't want him to feel like he can't like something bc he's a boy. especially toys they don't have gender

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Anonymous OP 4w

I’d say baby dolls and Barbie dolls do

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Anonymous #1 4w

baby dolls make even less sense than barbie dolls. why can't little boys aspire to be fathers?

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i never said gender wasn't real, i said toys don't have genders.

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Anonymous #1 4w

im not gonna try to change my child bc they are getting bullied, i would pull them out of school and we would find one that isn't tolerant or me and my husband would homeschool. i don't want my children to think it's bad to like something they like

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all products have an designated audience but that still doesn't mean that is the only demographic able to purchase it. if that is the case then i'll need to return the graphic tees and button up shirts i got from the men's section at target 💀

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Anonymous OP 4w

Baby dolls≠fatherhood or interest in it

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Anonymous OP 4w

and i probably should return my PS5 then as well since i can't be playing COD anymore 😔

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Anonymous OP 4w

Not what I’m implying smh

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Anonymous #1 4w

can you walk me through why? idk when the last time you were around a child specifically like toddler age, but they are mimics. they literally copy everything you do. so if a 4 year old boy sees his mom or dad taking care of his newborn baby brother, and is mimicking whay they do why shouldn't they get him a baby doll?

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Anonymous #1 4w

i don't see why it's okay for a little girl to be interested in "boy" things but its a problem for a little boy to be interested in "girl" things like they are just kids?? who gaf if it makes them happy

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Anonymous OP 4w

I mean ig you can but why not have them have a stuffed Dino as their “baby”

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Anonymous #1 4w

Well a baby doll can help teach them how to be gentle. Especially if they do have an actual baby in the house. Not to mention changing the clothes on a baby doll can increase fine motor skills, and attention to detail.

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Anonymous #1 4w

like sure i'll give you Barbie is typically a feminine girls toy as it focus a lot of fashion and empowerment for young girls but like a generic baby doll thats like 10 dollars at walmart isn't as gendered imo bc taking care of a baby isn't a gendered act

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Anonymous OP 4w

Ig ur right

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Anonymous #5 4w

Yes! This!

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Anonymous OP 4w

Oh my fault. If this is what you meant w teaching your kids- I don’t think many men will have a problem w this. If it’s regarding like gender roles and being okay w leaning towards the lgbt community then yes for sure 100%

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Anonymous #6 4w

noooo if your son wants to do ballet please please let him 🥺 legit his life and career will be SET. im talking full blown college scholarships into a one way ticket to a principal dancer in the new york city ballet. he'll never have to worry abt not having a career bc they are literally DESPERATE for male ballet dancers. and it's also requires way more athleticism than you might think. male dancers r ripped

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Anonymous OP 4w

Uh yeah not so much about the gender roles as much as I'm not supporting my children into impoverished career paths

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Anonymous #7 4w

Ballet is a highly coveted art form that is extremely popular all over the world? What do you mean impoverished? It's also with dance in general you can do more than just ballet. There r very many opportunities

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Anonymous #7 4w

i also don't think you should push the narrative that performing art based careers lead to poverty, bc for a lot of artist they aren't really in it for the money. i speak from experience as a singer & dancer myself. if your son happens to be passionate about dancing then i feel like you should support that

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Anonymous OP 4w

What narrative? Hun go look at the salary data on how much dancers make 💀

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Anonymous inphochewated 4w

Shit is why men’s stats regarding crime, suicide, and everything of the sort under the sun is fucked. OP, make sure your kids understand the idea of gender at some point but let them cook 🙌🏾

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