Anonymous #2 3w

Once he’s used for a while

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Anonymous #1 3w

Ok but what about my side, like obviously I understand it’s probably an insecurity for him too but it doesn’t take away all the self deprecating thoughts I have about myself because of it

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Anonymous OP 3w

I’d say it’s not something to worry about unless he watches porn. If he’s telling you he finds you attractive and is helping to make you feel less insecure about it, that’s much more important

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Anonymous #2 3w

I don’t care if he watches porn, as long as he doesn’t have a problem with it

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Anonymous OP 3w

what is the medication for?

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Anonymous OP 3w

Well wouldn’t this sound like delusion to you? You literally know the cause of it, which is his medication. So why on earth are you having self deprecating thoughts?

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Anonymous OP 3w

#4 is right, and that’s not an attack, but it’s clear you do actually know it’s not because of you, but you still feel this way. I would recommend whenever those thoughts creep in, focus on just how good the experience is as overall, and also remind yourself that he is taking that medication, and that it is ultimately for the best for him to feel better. I hope you can feel better about it.

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Anonymous #4 3w

The insecurity is that sure he might have this problem, but I’m definitely not helping. I can’t help but think the medication isn’t the only thing going on. Call it delusion if you want but that’s my thought

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Anonymous #4 3w

Maybe it’s because I’ve heard so many men talk deprecating about the women they are in a relationship with. Maybe I’m not satisfying him and he’s just settling bc that’s what men seem to do

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Anonymous #4 3w

And it doesn’t help that he comments on the fact that he isn’t satisfied which makes me feel bad for not wanting to go longer or more rounds

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Anonymous OP 3w

That’s not “What men seem to do” I know plenty of women who have done the same. That’s what unhealthy people do, but again, you know he is taking a medication that affects orgasm (I’m assuming like an SSRI or something). Please take him for his word

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Anonymous #5 3w

I guess I just don’t know how I’m supposed to feel secure when he doesn’t wanna talk about it or affirm that it isn’t my fault

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Anonymous OP 3w

Hard truth: he likely isn’t satisfied because HE CANT CUM. That’s frustrating. I know you are feeling things about the whole situation, but not everything is about you. Have you talked to him? Not in a way that is attacking, but just sat down together and had a talk about your sex lives and how he’s doing?

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Anonymous OP 3w

If he doesn’t want to talk about it, like is actively unwilling even if you bring it up, then I can understand where you’re coming from, but you also do know that he is taking a bed that has this as a side effect. If him struggling to talk about how he feels is a broader issue then that’s something fs to bring up

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Anonymous #5 3w

Ok but why is he putting it on me for getting tired and not being able to go on longer. Obviously he isn’t satisfied but that’s not really my fault and he makes me feel insecure about it bc I can’t go for hours. And yes obviously I’ve had a genuine conversation about this, he barely engages he just acknowledges he has a problem

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Anonymous OP 3w

Then maybe you need to have a more difficult conversation. Not good relationship should make you feel down on yourself in the long run

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Anonymous #5 3w

*no good relationship

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