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Do you tell your friend that the girl he’s seeing has a kid? Maybe it’s none of my business maybe he already knows and is ready to be a step dad at 22?? But he’s been gushing about her in a way that makes me think he has no idea
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Anonymous 3w

i would ask what he thinks of her kid or something like that. he probably is aware of the kid already and it can be a simle conversation starter. if he doesnt it is a more subtle way of letting him know

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Anonymous 3w

How long do you think the girl could hide the kid ? If he’s gonna find out in like a week I’d say just stay away from it. If you think this woman is gonna try to string him along for months then I’d intervene

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Anonymous replying to -> oranguru 3w

Idk how he hasn’t already bc he’s met her parents and been over to her house that’s why I’m like maybe he already knows and I should just stay out of it? But that seems insane lol? Like he told me he think she’s special bc she wanted to wait but now I’m like maybe she just wanted to wait bc she didn’t want him to see her episiotomy scar😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

How long have they been dating ? If it’s been longer than a month and he still doesn’t know this, that’s a huge red flag and I’d get the hell out of that shit

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Anonymous replying to -> oranguru 3w

Yeah I think it’s been just over a month😭 so do I tell him???

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

I would

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

If you feel comfortable waiting a little bit to tell him, that’s totally fine. But right now, I think it would be totally legit to drop that info. Worst case scenario he already knows and you look stupid, best case scenario he gets to make an actually informed decision about whether he wants to continue to invest in the relationship. But please take what I say with a grain of salt, this shit is so delicate

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Anonymous replying to -> oranguru 3w

Yeah I don’t wanna stick my foot in my mouth and sound really dumb if he already knows and is okay with it that’s the only thing 😭but I think I have to say something next time we chat I’ll try to bring it up casually

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Yes it could be really awkward, but I don’t think it would end the friendship. Next time you talk you could just be like “hey, what do you feel about changing diapers and toddler proofing your home”

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Anonymous replying to -> amethystpopcorn 3w

This is a really smart plan

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Anonymous replying to -> oranguru 3w

😂😭

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Anonymous replying to -> amethystpopcorn 3w

Thank you that is perfect I will try that

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Honestly I hope their relationship is like a rom com plot where a college student finds meaning, happiness, and family in becoming a stepfather

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Anonymous replying to -> oranguru 3w

I hope so too but everything he’s said makes me fear she’s straight up lying😭like he was so impressed she’s been sober for 3 years and has lost weight and stuff and I’m like yea… she HAD to get sober 3 years ago bc yk…she was PREGNANT😭and the weight she lost was BABY WEIGHT MY BOY!!

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