Ask Men on Sidechat | do yall ever wish you were a girl? i wish i was a boy a lot. not in a gender identity way, but just like i think i get along better with guys and wish i was seen as one of the guys instead of as a girl. it sounds pickme i don’t mean it in that way tho

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Ask Men 2w

do yall ever wish you were a girl? i wish i was a boy a lot. not in a gender identity way, but just like i think i get along better with guys and wish i was seen as one of the guys instead of as a girl. it sounds pickme i don’t mean it in that way tho

Anonymous 2w

Yes. I wish I had the platonic intimacy women had with each other. And even though I have girl friends I am always not in the in group

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Anonymous 2w

This is a tough q. I think if I had to live in a woman’s body I would be far less carefree in how I navigate the world. There’s definitely some privilege in being able to walk alone at night with no fear and to enjoy going to functions withiut being hit on. But I also feel that women find community easier than we do

Anonymous 2w

Not really, but I do wish people didn't gender everything. People think too much about gender and it dictates too many things. I don't feel very strongly about being a man, to me, it's just the parts I was born with and has little bearing on who I am. My parents were super egalitarian though so I guess that's why I feel that way. I think the only reasons I wouldn't like being a woman is the obvious burdens + it would be a lot harder to have abs.

Anonymous 2w

No, I like being a guy

Anonymous 2w

I wish I was a girl for a day just to see what it’s like

Anonymous 2w

When it comes to dating, yes. No offense but everything else I’d rather be a guy lol

Anonymous 2w

Wish I had boobs

Anonymous 2w

I think I’d be much happier had I been born female, but… I wasn’t so I guess it just is what it is

Anonymous 2w

Never

Anonymous 2w

Hellll nah, I dont wanna have periods and be weaker than half of everyone around me. Fuh nah

Anonymous

oranguru 2w

love u oranguru and what a classic case of you getting downvoted for even implying that misogyny exists. but yeah i wish i was a guy bc ultimately i think a lot of actions associated with being feminine and fitting into the female community rely on performance and im not good at understanding the ins and outs of it. idk im also not neurotypical but being a guy seems like more fun

Anonymous

#1 2w

yeah i wish i was a guy for like a month

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Anonymous

OP 2w

I think navigating women-dominated spaces as someone who is autistic can be really really difficult, since there’s a lot of subtlety and nuance coded in body language and tone and stuff. That’s why I think a lot of autistic men struggle to date. Guy friend relationships can be more surface level, but they’re easy to get into and participate in if you find a group

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oranguru 2w

EXACTLY. i love my female friends dearly and feel very emotionally connected to them but i can also recognize that all of us are pretty much neurodivergent and we also have a good amount of guy friends. i think i just get frustrated with the expectation that im supposed to always be pretty and nice and caring as a girl when i don’t feel like that. men are just themselves and everyone loves them

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Anonymous

OP 2w

hmmm I think a lot of men feel unloved and excluded from society because they haven’t learned how to be caring and open with others.

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Anonymous

oranguru 2w

But yea a man who is charismatic can be well loved in his social group without having to perform as much

Anonymous

oranguru 2w

yeah i think men need more vulnerable friendships and women need to stop performing femininity so much. like how come i got a bob and was wearing cargo shorts and baggy t shirts and everyone thought i was gay? gender expression is literally so made up and stupid 🫩

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Anonymous

OP 2w

Yea people struggle to treat others as individuals and are all to inclined to throw them into a labeled bin, like “lesbian”

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Anonymous

oranguru 2w

They’re prob insecure because they’re trapped into their own performance. Whenever I look at people in sororities and fraternities, it does seem like they are all trying very hard to be the same person

Anonymous

oranguru 2w

fr or they act like unique people are collectibles and try really hard to sleep with you

Anonymous

OP 2w

I can guarantee the “men are just themselves and everyone loves them” part is not true 😭

Anonymous

#5 2w

Yea that seems very far from the average male experience lol

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Anonymous

#4 2w

Me being loved by everyone

Anonymous

#4 2w

Hey OP, I don’t wanna like intrude ur DMs but I do have some journal entries I would like to share that you may relate to. Feel free to dm if u wanna :)

Anonymous

oranguru 2w

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Anonymous

stanczyk 2w

He secretly envious of the treatment dogs receive and is coping

Anonymous

#8 2w

its worse when it comes to dating tho 😭

Anonymous

#9 2w

i’m a girl and i don’t even have boobs so

Anonymous

#12 2w

Don’t wanna argue this but I strongly disagree

Anonymous

#8 2w

Just bc it might be easier for women to go on dates, we literally have to fear for their lives. that's worse than not being able to get a date.

Anonymous

#12 2w

It’s almost like getting a date is the only thing they said would be easier

Anonymous

#5 2w

no they said dating? not getting a date

Anonymous

#9 2w

sometimes they hurt tho 😭

Anonymous

#12 2w

To be dating you have to get a date 🤦‍♂️