As a woman i have never heard that sentiment expressed among other women. most women can enjoy sex without drinking. some might prefer a drink or two to calm the nerves, but i don’t think that impacts their capacity to consent so long as things are discussed beforehand and they are in control of their body

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Like obviously there’s use your best judgement and don’t have relations with anybody too far gone, but idk, I’m always worried about where the line gets drawn between fun/tipsy/drunk?

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One of my friends says it’s a bit painful if she’s sober but she loves it if she’s been drinking.

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As long as they aren’t too far gone or incapacitated, legally and ethically, you don’t have to be sober to consent. Legally, in most states, the standard is to not be incapacitated, and to be able to understand and assent to the essential nature of the sexual act. Ethically, I’d say they should be able to walk fine, talk without slurring their words, and that to the best of your knowledge, they would consent if they had sober judgment and wouldn’t regret it after the fact.

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