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My and my gf were talking to each other about her pasts and I asked why she hooked up with this one guy in the past cuz he sounded like a loser, and she said “cuz I thought he was hot”. And she ended things with him a year before we met. AIO?
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Anonymous 1w

See this is exactly the kind of situation I would hope to avoid as a man

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Anonymous 6d

slightly overreacting, i get it it sucks but its not about what shes done in the past but what her attitude is in the present, is she flirty with other men? can you tell if she entertains other guys? can you tell she’s committed to you and wants only you?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

Elaborate?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

I’m not 1, but I share the sentiment so I’ll respond. I don’t want to fall in love with the kind of girl who would have sex with someone simply to satisfy urges. I think that is a character flaw that isn’t easily fixed.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

Calling it a character flaw is crazy work lol. And it’s not something I can be hypocritical about since I have had more sexual partners in the past than her

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Lmao damn I think you probably need to move on past it then 😭 not you coming for advice and getting roasted so hard.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1w

Lol my issue was not the fact that she had sex with someone in the past, but is the fact that she said “cuz he was hot”, idk if that was meant to compare me? Or if she was just saying in the past she found him hot

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

I’m sure it wasn’t. If you’re really telling insecure about how she sees you talk to her. But to me it’s sounds like she was just giving you her reasons, not saying you’re not hot in any way

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1w

Gotcha, yeah she tells me often that I’m hot and that she likes the sex with me. So it’s prolly just my insecurities speaking. It’s the fact that we’re currently long distance rn is just amplifying my insecurities 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Ah I hear ya. But yeah it really sounds like you’re fine and she was just being open with you

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Anonymous replying to -> j_man 6d

She is not flirty with other men and is very loyal, doesn’t entertain other guys. And yeah she’s given me no reason for me to not trust her

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6d

it’s ok to feel jealous about it, but only for a while, you’ll have to accept it and focus on how much she’s grown since then. it seems like you have a good one, don’t let your overthinking (which is totally normal) ruin it

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