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Do guys strive for female validation the way that women do for male validation?
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Anonymous 5w

Not in the exact same way, but there are similarities

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Anonymous 5w

Women strive for male validation? They’re always telling us how they’re not 😭

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Anonymous 5w

Actually OP, after our spirited conversation in the comment section, I believe we distilled a better answer: Men seek appreciation more than validation.

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Anonymous 5w

No, everybody wants validation, but men don’t strive for it and change things about themselves to get it.

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Anonymous 5w

Depends on how skilled/capable the man is (historic study): Some men could be exiled and be just fine, maybe even come back from exile. Women historically, did not fair well in exile without a man. So some deep part of men who can endure exile don’t care what women/society think of them.

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Anonymous 5w

No

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Anonymous 5w

Either group striving for validation sounds extremely weird but the only relation I can think of is women striving to gain compliments and men striving to have sex. But no i don’t think they go about it the same way.

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Anonymous 5w

I don't

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Anonymous 5w

Uh…….. yes. Could we possibly be more obvious about it? We don’t even pretend not to; a male pick-me is just called a “man”! Im literally embarrassed by the question bc if theres a single woman on earth with a shred of doubt about this it means our combined efforts over all human history have somehow failed to impress you. Which is crazy because that includes like… the founding of civilization and everything we’ve done since. But… really? Not doing it for you? Nothing? Is this thing on?

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 5w

When denying a desire for validation one often is seen as strong and independent…thus receiving validation.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 5w

FALSE

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 5w

Holy false

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Anonymous 5w

There are no rights in the jungle. There is no society. No civilization. No patriarchy. It’s just you and God.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 5w

Is this fella restarted

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 5w

Nope. Just don’t need civilization/society so, the conversation is an illustration of my point. Y’all represent civilization, which appears to be an abomination right now. And I can live in the jungle/wilderness, thus, I don’t have to care what any of yall think, or agree with me on, or look for any validation. In fact. I pray you prove me wrong. Go live in the wilderness away from the patriarchy. See if I’m lying.

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Anonymous 5w

Well. OP asked if we seek validation. Some men don’t need it. We don’t need civilization itself if it’s going to be like this. “What’s the point in having a civilization if people aren’t going to act civil?”

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Anonymous 5w

I appreciate your concern but I think I’ll just go back to doing whatever I wish as long as it’s not in violation of one of God’s laws or the guidance provided by Jesus.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 5w

Is this a philosophical idea?

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 5w

I don’t think so? It’s not exactly stoicism because I do genuinely care about the people within civilization and it’s not “it is what it is”. I’ve just found the best way to live as a man is to only exist where I’m appreciated. That might be a written philosophy somewhere, but I couldn’t tell you when and where or what language it would be written in.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 5w

Ah i see, makes sense though

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 5w

Thank you. Feel free to share in the concept if it suits you.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 5w

striving for validation sounds so weird

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 5w

I think this is by far the best way of putting it, we need to be needed

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 5w

Definitely takes the cake

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 5w

I’m ngl I want validation so bad as a guy. The difference is we get it far less than they do

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 5w

I agree lol

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 5w

Interesting, could you explain cause I feel like the two are very close in similarities

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

They are. That’s true. Validation is more like confirmation you are accepted to a group. Appreciation can be from just one person. I thought to myself earlier this week, “I would be fine with the whole world hating me if just a single person I loved appreciated me.” Kind of speaks to why I feel the urge to just go back to the wilderness. I know God appreciates me even when nobody else does.

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