
Your perspective and outlook on life can only change if you intentionally place yourself in new environments and get to know more people. It is almost impossible to reason your way out of an incel mindset, but if you preoccupy yourself with other things in life, it will fade to background noise
Focus on bettering yourself man. Find hobbies you enjoy, join communities of people you can relate to and enjoy the company of (preferably irl), spend less time online each day (and if doing that makes you bored, don’t run from it — boredom breeds creativity). This is YOUR life, and if you spend it all worrying about women instead of yourself then you’ll waste it. Just go out there and live. Plus, relationships often come easier when you’re your best self and not desperate for them.
De-center your life from women and dating. Do things you enjoy, and don't prioritize finding love. Don't view every women you meet as a potential lover but as a person. Work on your bettering mind and body. Get into meditation, or therapy even. Find ways to provide happiness for yourself and not have to rely on others.