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I think I’m lowkey becoming an angry incel and I know I shouldn’t be and it’s only gonna make things worse? How can I convince myself that my mindset is wrong?
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Anonymous 2w

Get off the internet, man

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Anonymous 2w

Your perspective and outlook on life can only change if you intentionally place yourself in new environments and get to know more people. It is almost impossible to reason your way out of an incel mindset, but if you preoccupy yourself with other things in life, it will fade to background noise

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Anonymous 2w

Focus on other things, personally I focus on getting strong in the gym

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Anonymous 2w

Focus on bettering yourself man. Find hobbies you enjoy, join communities of people you can relate to and enjoy the company of (preferably irl), spend less time online each day (and if doing that makes you bored, don’t run from it — boredom breeds creativity). This is YOUR life, and if you spend it all worrying about women instead of yourself then you’ll waste it. Just go out there and live. Plus, relationships often come easier when you’re your best self and not desperate for them.

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Anonymous 2w

De-center your life from women and dating. Do things you enjoy, and don't prioritize finding love. Don't view every women you meet as a potential lover but as a person. Work on your bettering mind and body. Get into meditation, or therapy even. Find ways to provide happiness for yourself and not have to rely on others.

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Anonymous 2w

honestly just vibe twin, it’s not that deep and let it pass u by.

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Anonymous replying to -> oranguru 2w

I do think I need to just find some way to stop thinking about dating and women. Which isn’t easy because I want to find love a lot but clearly it’s harming me more than it should be

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

There’s always “hanging with” and “the boys”

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

Easier said than done, especially when you have no life 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Well then, in the most constructive and friendly way possible: get a life

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 2w

I don’t view every woman as a lover. I just want one person I’m attracted to 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Why? Do you believe that you're ready for a relationship? What would you add to her life if you don't have anything to add to yours?

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