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Ask Men 21w

How do I tell what’s genuine kindness and what’s manipulation? ( and before you say it- yes, I am in therapy)

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Anonymous 21w

Yea this is not a sane person thought, I wouldn't think about it like that

Anonymous 21w

Do they ask for or expect something in return for there so called acts of “kindness”?

Anonymous 21w

I mean, most people expect some sort of result when doing everything, and by that definition, everything is manipulation. It sucks, but that makes it hard to draw a line anywhere for specific actions. You don’t need to worry about “Are they doing this just because they want me to also do nice things??” or anything like that, just ask yourself if people actually care about you. Focus on over relationship quality instead of motives for particular things.

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orange_joyful_cat44 21w

I’m not insane. I’m just sick of being manipulated.

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OP 21w

I mean makes sense it's trauma caused not saying u insane but like without trauma I'd think u a bit off acting like this

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#3 21w

Not that I know of..but they tend to hide that part from me