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If you like a girl and she said she was waiting for sex until marriage, would you stay in the relationship? I’m losing hope here….
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Anonymous 11w

I don’t like having sex early in a relationship either, but I don’t think I’d wait until marriage just because for me, sexual compatibility is also important long term. If there was still physical intimacy in other ways I’d probably be willing to wait up to 1-2 years still though

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Anonymous 11w

This may not be what you need to hear, but this is my perspective. I’m almost 21, and to me sexual activity in a relationship is a huge element of one. I’m not even at a point in my life where I’m thinking of marriage (I have many friends who are!) so to me if I hear “I’m waiting until marriage” that person and I are simply incompatible. I have no problems being in a platonic relationship with them, but physical intimacy is essential for me.

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Anonymous 11w

Yeah, I’m waiting until marriage too

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Anonymous 11w

My respect for her would go up 10 fold and I’d stay

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Anonymous 11w

I wouldn’t probably. In order to get to marriage level relationships, FOR ME, there ought to be that level of intimacy.

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Anonymous 11w

I am going to do that regardless already

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Anonymous 11w

Yeah if I really do love her

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 11w

But what if you don’t love her yet, like she mentions it in the early dating phase

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11w

There are still plenty of guys out there that are fine to wait

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 11w

You’d be willing to give up sex for the foreseeable future?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11w

Yea

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11w

It ain’t that hard

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 11w

Have you had sex before?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11w

Yeah

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11w

It’s jus more enjoyable the better I know the person

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 11w

Compatibility in what sense?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11w

Mostly just that we have similar sexual interests or our differences are small enough that no one is unsatisfied

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 11w

Likewise, so was a big positive for me when she brought it up

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 11w

Yeah, but couldn’t you just discuss that beforehand? This is a crazy example, but I don’t have to have experience pegging to know that that’s not a sexual interest of mine lmao

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Anonymous replying to -> pinkgum 11w

What I need to hear is the truth, so thank you!

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 11w

Yeah, I just ironically find that the guys who are also waiting are either 1) a little odd or 2) unfortunately not my type physically so it really narrows the dating pool

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Anonymous replying to -> pinkgum 11w

Agreed!

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11w

It’s my truth! There absolutely are people waiting for marriage. You just may need to look for them.

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