Anonymous #6 13w

damn this lowk poetic but honestly you should ask before and be like i don’t wanna make u uncomfortable but like blah blah blah communicate ur feelings

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Anonymous #5 13w

i am aswell

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Anonymous OP 13w

I wish I could, we talked all of yesterday but I still couldn’t.

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Anonymous #6 13w

hopefully soon you’ll get comfortable enough too

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Anonymous #7 13w

eye tag is fire fr

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Anonymous #5 13w

But I think women should do it more tbh cause men are scarier and putting a woman in an uncomfy/unsafe position is something I try to avoid at all costs

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Anonymous #5 13w

Honestly I agree as a woman, if it’s an acquaintance or friend it’s totally different but stranger? Better to just let her approach imo

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Anonymous mother_russia 13w

I know I’ve told guys it’s better to not approach a woman you don’t know if you can’t read the room.

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Anonymous #13 13w

1st off) most men want to be in relationships and feel like they aren’t good enough or feel like they can’t get a relationship

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Anonymous #13 13w

2nd) most men honestly don’t know what to look for, they turn to look for signs but most women don’t put it out there or make it easy to spot. So most men are left in the dirt.

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Anonymous #13 13w

3rd) when men do know what to look for they are found to have 1-3 different types. The first will say no, the 2nd will pretend and no but want you to chance and the 3rd will say yes and that road will be a different path.

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Anonymous #13 13w

4) now that we’re in the meat of it, I’ll explain. Guys will try the flowers and respectful treatment and get disrespected by most women and get turned down or led down a road where they get friend zoned. Most men find it not worth it

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Anonymous #14 13w

What are you on?

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Anonymous #6 13w

Reality. Men who don’t want to take risks… what

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Anonymous #14 13w

That is delusion not reality

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Anonymous #6 13w

It’s delusional to what, approach women? Why are you that scared

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Anonymous #14 13w

No, but the reference of “ones who think they are equal to you” is condescending and generically rude we are all human and people have different level of anxiety and or social skills

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Anonymous #14 13w

No one is better than anyone else just based off gender

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Anonymous #6 13w

Never said better, no need to jump to that conclusion. And that’s my argument as well, she’s a regular person too, don’t let anxiety stop you from beautiful experiences

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Anonymous #14 13w

Yeah but your wording was wrong and was Perceived as rude and for me was misandry. People recognize the girls are people too and that why they get anxious, some people don’t have the self confidence to say something and when they do there is always the chance you’d rejected and that is a rational fear for a lot of people.

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Anonymous #6 13w

That’s not what misandry means.. u mean misogyny, which still wouldn’t be true. anyway i understand what your saying bc i was there, if you want to remove yourself from the dating pool then sure, but rejection is NOT A BIG DEAL. Life continues, there’s 100% a polite and respectful way to approach women, have a conversation, and potentially plan to meet at a later date. You guys in here need to get over this fear, like you have no idea

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Anonymous #14 13w

No it’s misandry the topic was men and you made a derogatory statement. And I agree that rejection isn’t as a big deal as some believe it to be but that’s the point of anxiety it’s not rational. And to belittle that isn’t productive at all some people take time to get over these things.

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Anonymous #6 13w

The way you pivot, and perceive things is truly a dangerous thing. The fact that you feel belittled says everything, I’m just calling it for what it is, which is not meant to work against anyone but to work with. How long are you going to wait, your potential gf’s are waiting for yall. Wake up, it’s possible. You’re literally made to endure hardship, overcome fear, and take action. If not, stay the same! It’s truly no problem to the world

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Anonymous #14 13w

Or women can approach to like you said they’re the same

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Anonymous #15 13w

Ah ok you are approaching I read the comments. That’s good. I mean at the end of the day though it’s still far more men approaching than women, just fewer men than before. But focus on what you can control, keep putting yourself out there. This shit takes tomes

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Anonymous #14 13w

What do you mean by “ones who think they’re equal to you, you wouldn’t want them anyway” ????

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Anonymous #13 13w

That’s because body language isn’t consistent, people respond differently to different things. That’s just a general human thing and not a man or woman thing.

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Anonymous #12 13w

Some of us do, others don’t because of internalized misogyny or because they want to feel pursued rather than in pursuit or it’s just horrible social anxiety.

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Anonymous #1 13w

I didn’t say I felt belittled I’m saying belittling the topic of differences of social anxiety etc. and if you can point out the pivot please.and the whole point of recognizing those unhealthy social behaviors like low self confidence is much healthier and will lead to better relationships with others and yourself. You can endure hardship but there are easier and healthier ways to do it!

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Anonymous #14 13w

And would you elaborate on the first sentence?

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Anonymous mother_russia 13w

Sure, but statistically people follow the crowd and human behavior. Men gravitate towards male behaviors while women gravitate towards theirs. For instance, women tend to be more shy and submissive while men tend to be more dominant.

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Anonymous mother_russia 13w

Ikr?!???

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Anonymous #13 13w

Ew no.

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Anonymous #13 13w

Women don’t tend to be shy and submissive at all. We all have been socialized to follow specific behaviors but women haven’t been shy and submissive as a general rule or group for at least a few decades.

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Anonymous #13 13w

There aren’t “male” behaviors either. Our sex isn’t what determines if we are dominant or submissive, it’s our experiences and socialization.

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Anonymous mother_russia 13w

Again, statistically there are. Males from a young age grab towards trucks and women grab towards dolls. We don’t teach it, it genetically happens. We are different and the only thing that can change it is socialization. Your environment can socially change your outlook and behaviors, but if not an unknown fact that men are more dominant and women typically are more submissive. You do know that right?

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Anonymous #13 13w

It actually is socialized. There is a lot of evidence showing nurture over nature, that the gendered roles are socialized rather than naturally occurring. You don’t genetically like trucks 💀 But truly, I don’t have the time or energy to have to hold your hand and explain it to you. Please stop listening to incel redpill nonsense and actually look up studies specifically studying nurture over nature and gender roles.

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Anonymous mother_russia 13w

The truck/doll thing actually isn’t socialized. It was a big debate that got answered fairly conclusively: https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/21568235.2021.1895858#abstract If gender roles were only a social phenomenon, I find it hard to believe they would be so widespread. I also hold the belief that nurture becomes nature given enough time - and nature and nurture are intertwined; each begets the other.

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Anonymous #17 13w

I don’t think a group of men sat in a circle one day and decided that boys get blue stuff and girls get to have pink stuff. Or that boys get shorts and girls get skirts. Or that boys get to like trucks and girls get to like dolls. Nurture can only achieve so much: short of brainwashing, you can’t nurture a gay kid into being straight, and you can’t nurture men into being shorter/weaker than women on average. Our natural differences are a lot of the reason for our social roles.

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Anonymous #17 13w

My feeling is that men are using the fact of making women uncomfortable or women being picky to excuse their complacency. It’s always been a statistically losing game to ask a woman out, and it’s probably worse now, but women aren’t all rejecting men. I guess it’s less worth it these days but that’s a different story. There’s less incentive on both sides to both ask someone out and accept being asked out. It’s too comfortable to just not participate, and there’s too much to lose if you do.

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Anonymous #17 13w

For women, it’s easier to wait for someone who’s close to perfect, and for men, it’s easier not to participate at all. But that leads to the worst recipients of the fallout of this behavior to end up on YikYak complaining about how bad things have gotten. Social media glamorizes the worst of society, and the government keeps feeding anti-social and anti-productive behaviors.

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