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so im a black women and a pattern i've noticed within dating white men is like they don't believe I can actually achieve the things i aspire to achieve. im a mechanical engineering major with a minor in fashion with the hopes to combine the two ⬇️
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Anonymous 3d

That’s a them problem, not a you problem.

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Anonymous 3d

in order to create self dress clothing, that can help people with physical disabilities, as well as just innovative designs like a color changing dress. but like they also say my ideas aren't achievable and recently one of them made a comment abt me being the token DEI hire and idk it just hurt my feelings and idk why they don't believe in me

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Anonymous 3d

You’ve been around these parts before and heard our answers before. They don’t change, just be you. Having a unique passion can be isolating in engineering

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Anonymous 3d

Sounds like some subconscious racism tbh

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Anonymous 3d

Lol thats what you get dating white dudes

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Anonymous 3d

Not a question

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3d

i do ask a question actually

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

DEI hurts people like you because even though you are qualified, people will always question your credentials as long as DEI exists

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 3d

You see that is where you're wrong. People only say DEI is harmful when it comes to industries like STEM or entertainment where it seems like the diversity is being forced ergo hurting more than benefiting. However that's not what DEI is. In athletics, it's never questioned why certain athletes get scholarships or drafted bc they prove their abilities every single game and it's not something nobody sees (like STEM) or subjective (entertainment/with casting in movies).

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

like it's very easy to prove your credibility when you are repeatedly winning games, or scoring the most points or whatever, which is why no one ever questions why they didn't make a team or get an athletic scholarship. i just wish people applied the same logic when it comes to non athletic career fields. the point of DEI is make sure everyone has who is qualified has an equal shot.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

Alright my personal opinion. I don’t think any of this has to do with skin color but I do think you need to look for better guys. Graduating with two majors is a huge goal, now one of those being mechanical engineering makes that wayyy harder. To add you want to invent a new style and type of clothing. Those are huge goals and yeah they may seem unrealistic to a lot of average ppl. But that is why you need to be with someone better and who will support you.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 2d

i date all races, this just only happens with white men. who only dates one race?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

They’re not saying you should date one race. But the fact is this should be an expected outcome… Imagine dating a Martian and acting surprised when it does stuff Martian-ly.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

I only date within my race, and thus avoids issues like this

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