Anonymous #3 1w

yeah like begging to be pampered isn’t going to feel good when u receive it like if he didn’t get the explicit request the first time then assume he doesn’t care enough to go out of his way to spend money on his gf.

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Anonymous #2 1w

Some guys are just genuinely clueless, I think expressing that you want something makes sense, how else will they know? But after explicitly asking for it and no action? That’s nuts

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Anonymous #4 1w

not saying you’re wrong but I wanna draw another line between a man truly having no idea what his gf would like vs. absolutely knowing “my girlfriend would probably like flowers or some other kind gesture because almost everyone appreciates kind gestures” and not doing anything & then saying someone who want kind gestures or surprises is asking too much when it should be intuitive… most girls like flowers…

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Anonymous #5 1w

Yeah I mean everyone should do surprise kind things for their gf and know that that’s the right thing to do, 100%. I’m just saying that OP’s thing is flowers and that’s not the thing that many girls want/like. It’s understandable that a guy might not know flowers are THE thing she’s looking for, we can’t read minds. But OP did a tough but valuable thing in communicating clearly that she wants that and he still didn’t do it, that’s abhorrent

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Anonymous #4 1w

I’m saying, the worst that happens if you give your gf flowers & she doesn’t like them. Most men could probably make worse decisions than getting flowers to show they care, or any other kind gesture as a surprise. but instead, it’s often put as: “women don’t deserve to be surprised because men can’t read their mind & know exactly what they want” i don’t think it needs to be that complicated to do something kind spontaneously. there is a middle ground between “if he wanted to he would” and “i’m n

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Anonymous #4 1w

ot a mind reader”

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Anonymous #5 1w

No I’m just saying everyone has different love languages. For some people it’s gifts and for some people it’s time or touch or whatever. Flowers are one of many many things a partner can do for another partner and it’s not a universal thing, lots of girls couldn’t care less about flowers. I’m saying it’s possible that OP’s bf does other loving things and just didn’t know that flowers are the thing she wants, thats very possible and understandable. Which is why I’m glad OP communicated clearly ev

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Anonymous #4 1w

Even though yes it would be better if the bf just knew to try flowers in the first place without being asked

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Anonymous #4 1w

the idea is that surprises in general are an unrealistic thing to want, that women who want things should always need to ask for those kind things & because “mind reading” etc. not necessarily gifts or flowers. women who want surprises are told to lower their expectations while women who have to ask, often more than once through “reminders” when he’s forgotten are praised for “making it work”

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Anonymous #4 1w

I’m happy some women are content to ask for every kind gesture and never feel resentful at never being thought of without prompting but expecting every woman to become that woman is the new trend and idk, feels icky. i know men are capable of more than only doing what they are asked.

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Anonymous #4 1w

those things they “should ask for” could be any love language “i want you to compliment me more” “i want you to be more touchy” “i want you to spend more time w me” etc etc etc the point is, women are more and more being expected to always ASK for their love language to be appreciated & idk if love should always have to be prompted. if that makes sense. there’s a line between strong communication & understanding your partner.

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Anonymous #5 1w

No not kind gestures or surprises in general; I’m talking about flowers specifically, thats my whole point. It is fathomable that OP’s bf didnt know abt flowed

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