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Should I give up on dating even though I have never dated anyone? I don't think I'll ever find anyone and I cant lie I do expect something out of a fairytale romance just a bit when that guy comes along...so is giving up just making more sense here?
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Anonymous 3w

I say something similar but I do think the whole “stop dating” thing is a little bullshit. I’d just say stop trying to force it and seek it out. Focus on you and do your thing and just make sure you’re putting yourself out there enough and something will come along.

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Anonymous 3w

U will have to put in effort to find someone. I’m in a similar boat I have this vision of the girl I want idk man U gotta ask people out and reach out first

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Anonymous 3w

Nah never give up

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Anonymous 3w

Don't give up, but also don't expect everything to magically go your way without any effort

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Anonymous 3w

I’ve never been in a real relationship either at 22, and while I have gotten clowned on for that, I just like to do my own thing at this point. Go live your life, maybe flirt a little bit if the time is right and see if it works out, but that shouldn’t be your focus. Build good relationships/friendships and you won’t even be worried about having a bf cause you’ll have what you’re already seeking, emotional connection.

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Anonymous 3w

Never back down never what????? NEVER GIVE UP. Hit the gym lol

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Anonymous 3w

Give tf up it's not worth it

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

I think I underestimated how hard dating is.... Why is actually hard

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Anonymous replying to -> amethyst_bacon 3w

Like yes there will be some need of effort to be put in but it’s not going to be worth your energy and time to actively try and force yourself to date. If you’re unnaturally trying to seek out relationships it’s gonna be hard.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

I also find it very frustrating, but we've got to just keep working at it 💪

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Anonymous replying to -> amethyst_bacon 3w

same here, i kept getting disappointed when i relentlessly sought out a relationship. at some point i realized that i was wasting my time so i focused on improving myself and expanding my social circle, and i ended up meeting the right person in a very comfortable way. i still had to put in effort and ask her out, but i was not stressing over how she would respond

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 3w

So then why hasn't this worked

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 3w

if you're still focused on achieving the result of getting in a relationship, you're doing it wrong. you need to focus on living and improving your life. as a byproduct you'll have more confidence in yourself, become a better person, know your boundaries, and be more capable of identifying the right person. it may even take several years, but it eventually attracts quality people over quantity.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 3w

That’s awesome to hear

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 3w

That is what I'm doing 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 3w

Just gotta be patient with it, it’ll come eventually. I want it too but I know its not just gonna happen because I want it to

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 3w

Id say it’s kind of like rolling a dice, you might get lucky, you might not. But expecting the dice to land on what you want is just gonna make you frustrated.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 2w

Here’s the thing, you can’t ‘force’ the right person to come along. All you can do is remain open and available if/when they do. You can close yourself off and guarantee you won’t meet anyone, but opening up isn’t a guarantee that you will meet them.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

If it were easy, everyone would already have someone

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