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why is it so common for men to go out with me, consistently talk for a month or so, and then disappear off the face of the earth? like what am i doing wrong
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Anonymous 5w

Most ppl aren’t a match for most ppl

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Anonymous 5w

If they’re ghosting you, that’s just immaturity. If they seem less interested / stop reaching out / asking you out, it’s a bad fit. Any guy who is actively interested wouldn’t do that

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Anonymous 5w

Same girl! We should be friends 🥲

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Anonymous 5w

You tell us. What are you doing a month in? Or not doing? Are you dangling sex until they call bs on it? (question, not accusation). That’s the most obvious reason I could think of. Though depending on how regular it is it wouldn’t explain why it always takes a month since different men have different patience and/or credulity levels

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 5w

i'm so honest about the fact that i want a relationship, and that i don't want sex from the get. so maybe that's why?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

You DO want a relationship, but you DON’T want sex, did I read that right? Bc yeah, that’s a pretty tall order for most guys. I’m not sure why they stick around for a month but it could be to find out if you were lying about the no-sex thing (I’ve known some women who do that to screen out impatient guys)

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 5w

no like we can fuck when were official lol i hate hookups/fwb

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