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Guys, how do you feel about letting ur future wife not take ur last name
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Anonymous 10w

go last name for last name; whoever has the tougher last name gets to keep it

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Anonymous 10w

I would hope she doesn’t want to take my last name. We can coin flip for kids last names or hyphenate

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Anonymous 10w

She gets to decide what she wants. I really don’t care. My only thing is having two last names makes legal paperwork difficult sometimes

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Anonymous 10w

Honestly I got daddy issues and hate my father, so I don’t blame anybody if you don’t want his last name either… 🤣

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Anonymous 9w

I prefer she keep her last name

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Anonymous 10w

“Letting ur future wife” is kinda the issue you can’t be letting her, it’s what she wants to do that’s not up to you.

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Anonymous 10w

I wouldn’t really care. I’ve got a lot of family history behind my last name, I wouldn’t be happy if I was a women and asked that same question ngl

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Anonymous 10w

Seeing as my last name is hyphenated of both my parents, it would be very ironic for her to take my last name, and I very much wouldn’t want her to.

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Anonymous 10w

Honestly I’d need her to since I’m the only boy with the last name, can’t be letting it die out, yk?

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Anonymous 10w

we aren’t getting married then lol

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Anonymous 10w

My last name is really cool so she doesn’t have a choice really

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 10w

Okay well what if it’s important to her and has significance to her

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

then we don’t need to get married and she can keep her last name. “what if it has significance to her” well no shit it will it’s a family name. the only way for it to live on is by continuance of the line. but i’m not marrying someone who won’t take mine or tries to make our kids carry her maiden. like you could maybe get me to swing a middle name for the maiden but that’s it

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 10w

Mfs will talk about the continuance of the line like they’re medieval nobility

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 10w

how else would you describe it lol. like i’m not even blood, i’m adopted, but i’m happy to keep the family name going bc of the life it has enabled me to pursue. i don’t think it’s wrong to be proud of your family

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 10w

Ig my point is that surnames just don’t mean that much. But if a man losing his last name is such a profound loss, why is it not so for a woman who’s forced to take her husbands last name

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 10w

He gets it

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 10w

it’s a great sacrifice made in the name of love. i do consider it a very large gesture, my family helped me to this point and now i am giving myself to you to take care of. it is not a small gesture at all, neither is marriage. that’s why i don’t consider it necessary to get married if you’re unwilling to take that step

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 10w

What if my last name sucks and I don’t want her to have to have it?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 10w

Marriage represents an enormous commitment, but that still doesn’t explain why there must be a gendered asymmetry. And there are more tangible ways someone can give of themselves to the person they married

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 10w

Well sure, what is love if not sacrifice, but keeping my own name doesn’t mean I would love any less or any differently

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 10w

Genuinely no one’s last name out toughens mine so gg fr

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Anonymous replying to -> beestboy 10w
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Anonymous replying to -> #4 10w

I wish I could do a reveal but it would genuinely fry me but that name do go hard

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 10w

Bro don’t dox for the bit

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 10w

holy fuck

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 10w

Obviously that’s not him gang 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 10w

Cringe as hell

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Anonymous replying to -> #11 9w

I think I disagree, but please educate me on your “why not” reason

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Anonymous replying to -> #12 9w

My mom did not change her last name when she got married, and my last name is a hyphenated last name of my mom’s and dad’s. It would thus be very ironic for my future wife to change her last name to mine when the whole story behind my last name is my mom keeping her maiden name when getting married. Also, as the only child between both my parents, I’m pretty sure I’m the only person with my hyphenated last name, and I have no intent to change that.

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Anonymous replying to -> #11 9w

Ok, but hear me out, what if you both have hyphenated last names and get married and decide to hyphenate. Smith-Johnson-Williams-Brown

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Anonymous replying to -> benjamin.rush 9w

Children would have my last name though

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