From personal experience, I feel like having narcissistic parents impacts this a lot. Also, I wonder if periods have anything to do with it if there is a difference. Constantly being at baseline would make boiling over points feel more logical and less prone to one to be mindful and/or detaching themselves from their emotions. But since men are more avoidant in general what happens when shit boils over is usually much more irrational I guess?

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I believe that people aren’t necessarily taught these things- they occur naturally through socialization with peers and is part of why children need to grow up with other children to work through emotional regulation. But men are definitely punished for emotional regulation. In my house, i was punished severely as a child for any sign of weakness and now im trying to undo all of that programming with therapy

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Patriarchally speaking, no. Young boys are generally taught that some emotions like sadness and grief are “feminine” and that they should be suppressed. It’s why there’s such an epidemic with men not seeking medical help and dying from completely preventable disease/injury, and why suicide rates are so high amongst mentally ill men. It’s not manly to need help.

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Some are, some are not. Just like women

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