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Cheating or Not Cheating: Sexting with randoms while being in a committed, long term relationship without prior conversation of whether this is okay or not.
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Anonymous 20h

In my opinion, that's definitely cheating because in monogamous relationships, the typical expectation is that once you all establish a relationship, it's just you both together. If a couple wants to try exploring this with others, they should be communicative about their boundaries, what'd be acceptable, etc. and agree that their relationship will be poly

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Anonymous 7h

What even is this question? “Is the sky blue” type shi 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 20h

I would agree! Without any communication it’s cheating. I appreciate your opinion! :)

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20h

No problem at all, was there any particular reason you asked us this?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 20h

Yeah I’m currently in this situation and we have contrasting opinions on it and was curious what others would think. I know not all relationships are the same and to not let outside opinions influence your relationship though.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20h

Ah gotcha! Maybe the person you're talking to is interested in a poly relationship then, but if they insist on a monogamous relationship yet hold this view, I'd be very confused because that doesn't seem fair at all to their partner and just seems like they want excuses to cheat

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20h

But either way, yeah, I absolutely think this is cheating if you all plan to be monogamous or are already in a monogamous relationship! I hope this person hasn't been doing this to you

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 20h

He said he doesn’t mind sexting others but nothing can become physical or emotionally involved. So I’m just a little confused where that puts us haha

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 20h

I really appreciate you! We are trying to work through it but it’s been a struggle today the least.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20h

No problem at all, I'm sorry it's been a struggle based on what you told me because I'd be confused if someone told me the same as someone seeking something monogamous. You're definitely within your right to tell him that's a dealbreaker if it is for you!

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 20h

Thank you!! I will keep what you said in mind :)))

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