Anonymous #2 4w

TLDR he could’ve phrased the point he was making better/made it for the wrong reasons

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Anonymous #2 4w

I mean, I know what he was saying but he was making it seem like other lifestyle factors don’t even play a role. And even when I tried to kinda compliment & be like “You’re a super healthy guy, I’m sure you have time” he was still like… genuinely mad. So idk, it’s weird to me. It feels like he was mad or frustrated we weren’t on the same page… but we just met.

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Anonymous OP 4w

Yeah it’s definitely an odd thing to bring up after just meeting, but I will say the other factors genuinely don’t matter. 28 is like the best case scenario. You can improve your health to be better after you’re 28, but your potential is maxed at 28 so you’ll never be able to reach the same peak and it’s all downhill from there. I’m kinda just yapping rn because I asked a medical friend after someone else told me the same thing this guy told you sorry lol

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Anonymous #2 4w

Just thought it’s kinda interesting and also a bit scary ngl

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Anonymous #2 4w

Yes, but to pretend a healthy 35 year old is going to be in a worse position to raise a healthy family than an obese sedentary 28 year old just feels so arbitrary to me. Like your test can drop & u can still have healthy sperm even if it’s not the absolute peak of human fitness. Like some people age more rapidly due to lifestyle factors: drugs, cigs, alcohol. To pretend those things don’t impact sperm health is weird.

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Anonymous #2 4w

Like to be a healthy father you don’t have to be the pinnacle of the male body—and to completely boil everything down to immutable biological characteristics feels SO icky & it makes me question his perception of women as they age as well. If he thinks a man in his 30s is essentially senile.

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Anonymous OP 4w

Oh I completely agree, it’s just that the risks start increasing starting at 28 no matter how healthy you are

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Anonymous #2 4w

As phrased to me kinda bluntly by the medical person, “your body transitions from growing to slowly dying and doing what it can to maintain functions for as long as possible” 💀

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Anonymous #2 4w

Very morbid ik

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Anonymous #2 4w

See, he didn’t frame it as “the risks increase” he framed it as (basically) he refused to have kids after a certain age because all men just hit a wall & feel like shit by 31. And he would feel so old & terrible so he wanted to enjoy his kids while he was young & still felt good. All because I said I thought 30 was young.

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Anonymous OP 4w

If he thinks a man is his 30s is senile I feel so bad for him 😭 they say the 30s are like your 20s but with money so he should get out and explore the world instead of moping over age

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Anonymous OP 4w

Yeah that’s very odd. I was just giving devil’s advocate because I thought the 28 thing is an interesting medical fun fact but it’s clear he doesn’t have that view and is just very pessimistic

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Anonymous #2 4w

He literally acted like a 27 year old man was like… pushing it. Enjoy your last year. And then by 35 you’d need a robot to take you up and down the stairs. That’s how he spoke about men in their 30s.

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Anonymous OP 4w

😭 that’s diabolical

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