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Ask Men 14h
i dont want to change myself, but I want to know why guys dont like me? what makes you start talking to a girl and just get completely turned off?
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Anonymous 13h

I mean, every person is different ultimately. Everyone you meet isn’t always gonna be into you

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Anonymous 11h

Deal breakers: Not having enjoyable conversations, people pleasing to an extent that honesty flies out the window, not empathetic Can be deal breakers (if combined with other things): closed minded, selectively empathetic, can’t read the room, too slow or inexperienced to recognize subtle flirting, lazy

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Anonymous 10h

Self centered, doesn’t respect herself, hits you when you’re down, doesn’t back you up in front of her friends. Some of my deal breakers

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Anonymous 10h

Lowkey for me, I’m always kinda put in places where if I go out and I feel like I’m starting ALL the conversations like I’ll just drop all contact lowkey idk if that’s weird but I have a very sensitive threshold and I don’t like feeling like that jester meme 😭🥀

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Anonymous 13h

What stage of the interaction do they get turned off at ? Are you getting guys numbers, are you getting dates, if so are you getting second dates

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 12h

I second this. Is there like a pattern you’ve noticed?? However, don’t always blame yourself. You’re probably overthinking too much girl

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 11h

I’m pretty selective though and am pretty strict with what I’m looking for, also some of these could just be me, and this doesn’t necessarily apply to everyone

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 11h

There are edge cases which is why I included partial deal breakers but those are usually if something makes up for it, like a girl who isn’t that smart is fine if she’s a really good person who’s kind and hardworking, or a girl who’s less empathetic is ok if she’s really smart and ambitious, but neither of those would fly if we weren’t also laughing at each others jokes a lot

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 11h

Also I feel like I should clarify that the lazy one is practically a full deal breakers but if everything else was good I think I’d be happy, versus the first three which would get me putting my shit in reverse immediately

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 11h

I like you have a cookie. I think you said all this perfectly

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 11h

One question though, what does pleasing to an extent that it flies out the window mean??? Like a super people pleaser?

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 9h

Statistically, not all people pleasers are cheaters, but a lot of cheaters are people pleasers, I’m not stupid enough to think that my partner will never be attracted to another person, but if she is not willing to be blunt and honest with someone she has chemistry with just because she doesn’t want their friendship to lose momentum, that’s too volatile for me. Either our connection isn’t strong enough or she isn’t strong enough

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 9h

I feel like too much ego can be an issue but relying on others to fuel your own can be an issue too.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 9h

You’re so well spoken. That makes so much sense. I just didn’t understand your wording at first. But I agree with all of your stances and I wouldn’t want a boyfriend to do that to me

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 8h

very well articulated thank you!

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 8h

not really anything consistent, sometimes a month in, a day, a week? i guess lately its been around a month

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 8h

very true!! i just dont get how regardless of how i meet them nobody seems to either want to stick or is interested at all,

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