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Guys pls… I go to parties I literally can’t get a guy. It’s weird, they’ll hang around and don’t seem disinterested, but won’t make a single move? I’m talking I could be dancing on them and they’re petrified to put a finger on me unless they’re drunk 😭💔
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Anonymous 1d

Oh no, dudes trying to be respectable. Got to at the bare minimum ask their name. Maybe even say that there single now. Can't just exist and expect dudes to come at you thirsty af. At least for me, I don't want to overstep when a girl could have a bf too.

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Anonymous 1d

If you ever wanna make a move, you should never feel bad to initiate! It wouldn't surprise me if the reason they're hesitant is because they may not think you feel similarly and want to be respectful. There's nothing wrong with you being the one to initiate if you're interested as long as you're respectful of them not feeling the same

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Anonymous 1d

Have you tried finding men at places other than parties

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Anonymous 1d

At ucsd snu we love to show girls a good time. If you’re a college aged girl dm our Instagram and I’ll personally send you a party invite.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

Mm idk since the first thing I do is ask their name, I’m not that hasty? Also, I don’t think anyone is going to parties for a long term relationship?? And usually a girl wouldn’t dance on you if she’s taken…

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

But also, I’m not actually upset, I get it. Honestly it’s nice, I’ve never once felt unsafe going out, even alone with my phone dead at times. I guess the question is more so how can I get some reciprocation?? Because at this point it feels like I literally have to grab a guys hands 😭💔

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

It's good that you feel safe! But remember to be smart. Bad things can happen when you least expect it, so stay aware. Don't let it ruin the fun though

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Awh how sweet, don’t worry I’m very aware!! I grew up with 4 older brothers too and my dad was in a frat so not much spooks me. Same to you, guy or girl, stay safe 🫶

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

No… that’s scary because they’re sober and I’m sober and it’s not dark/crowded enough for me to run away if I completely bomb 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

I've 100% seen girls dance on any random dude while having a boyfriend. Heck, they usually go to the party with their boyfriend.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

You gotta initiate girl

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