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How come it seems like only women help other female strangers in public when they’re being harassed or assaulted? Where are the men?
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Anonymous 24w

for a long time the main thing women had against violent/scary men were numbers. now women can carry weapons and such but the community defense mechanism is still strong

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Anonymous 24w

Most men are caught up in what I like to call The Wahlberg Delusion, named after Mark Wahlberg’s 9/11 tweet. Men are led to imagine these things with such a sense of bombast and spectacle for the purpose of imagining a hero-scenario to the extent where we see what you’re describing

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Anonymous 24w

Keep it pushing Aqua

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Anonymous 24w

So this is actually proven by studies. I’m obviously a woman and I haven’t read everything OP typed but it is very true that women are much more likely to help out in situations while in public.

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Anonymous 24w

Because usually they’re their friends. Women tend to hang out with women more than men

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Anonymous 24w

As a woman, when I was being sa’d on one of the main streets of my campus, it was a guy that helped me get away. So I wouldn’t say that it doesn’t happen, it just probably feels more common depending on where you are/who you’re with

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Anonymous 24w

Nice bait, aqua. We haven’t missed you

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 24w

No I’m referring to strangers helping out strangers. Like at a mall, the streets, public transit etc. Not friends

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 24w

Who is that fr

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 24w

yall are in this community so often you know who this aqua person is? Weird

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 24w

Uh huh, don’t let the door hit you on the way out

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 24w

Can’t even answer the question, only 1 person has

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 24w

She spammed on here multiple times per day for over a year. Also commented almost every single post; she was terminally online. Hard not to notice…

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 24w

Nobody is going to entertain your misandrist bullshit dawg just take it elsewhere

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 24w

The question assumes something that isn’t true. You’re asking us for a reason for something that doesn’t happen. Either you’re seeing this online or think it’s real, or you desperately need to move somewhere safer.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 24w

I mean who even uses this community regularly? I use this community once a year when men

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 24w

Went from month to year? Interesting.

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 24w

Misandrist? You got to be tougher for the outside world dude. It was an observation. A circumstance I’ve been in. You’ll be okay

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 24w

Sorry you feel that way queen😔

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 24w

It is true tho, ask any woman in your life. Listen to women. Go outside. Get out of your echo chamber

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 24w

Yup I misspoke. Do you wanna see my karma or some thing. I forgot this community exists

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 24w

The only one in an echo chamber is you dawg which one of us is claiming 50% of the human race actively allows horrible shit to happen to the other 50%? It ain’t me.

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 24w

Did I say that? Now you’re putting words in my mouth. In general, if a woman is in danger a woman will stand up for her before a man. It’s simple. It’s not controversial

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 24w

Yes you did lmao a man is objectively not any less likely to step in in a dangerous situation than a woman is

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 24w

Yeah that just isn’t true whatsoever

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 24w

No it definitely is. You need to get out of your head.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 24w

It is true. TikTok “men are evil” shorts doesn’t count as a source

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 24w

I said it happened to me several times weirdos. What are you going on about TikTok

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 24w

Yes misogyny and sexual harassment is just in my head

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 24w

When tf did you say that. Also personal experience ≠ objective truth

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 24w

When did I say it was from TikTok or from my head? Bro like every woman has had circumstances where female strangers come to help them, never men 😭 that’s what I’ve said from the beginning

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 24w

Girl just shut up. No one here takes you seriously, let alone values your opinions. Go be wrong somewhere else 🙄

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 24w

Yes ik you guys hate women and don’t ever listen to us. We get it

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 24w

No, just you. The vast majority of us are smart enough that we don’t generalize the shitbrain behavior of one person to an entire gender 😬

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 24w

Nah bro, just not accepting a blatant lie. If you think that’s hatred you had it easy

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 24w

One person? I said every/most women have this experience multiple times…. You’re not listening

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 24w

Go ask the women in your life. I dare you

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 24w

“Squawk squawk squawk SQUAWK SQUAWK squawk” -you, to any man who will listen

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 24w

What are you even talking about? I’m not even a man hater anymore like I used to be. Just last night I was working late & I was in a rush going from client to client trying to get home. Exhausted after working 12 hours. I stopped in front my car just to double check I didn’t hit a bumper and a female stranger just two cars down was like “are you okay?”. It’s always women looking out for another, idk why you’re making this some weird anti man outrageous statement. You guys are uber sensitive

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 24w

She must have thought I was hurt or running from someone idek but she stopped mid convo with her friend to make sure I was okay

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 24w

Dude if you were even remotely close to right you’d have like minimum 10 statistics and studies to back you up. Guess what you don’t have.

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 24w

And where are your studies that show otherwise? I’m talking about a common occurrence amongst some holy shit. Again just talk to women!!

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 24w

Amongst *women

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 24w

I don’t need studies because my point is common sense lmao

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 24w

So you know what it’s like to be a woman, what we experience and how we’re treated?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 24w

Sure ig🤷‍♂️

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 24w

Do you know what it’s like to be a woman? I don’t think that you’ve grown up enough to call yourself one…

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 24w

Shush child I doubt you’re older than me. You’re a misogynistic troll on the internet trying to shut down women’s lived experiences in a community called “ask men”. Obsessed with some random user. Projection

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 24w

Said the 17 year old

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 24w

I might be younger than you. That makes it even more pathetic that you’re behaving like such a child, tho…

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 24w

You wish you pervert. Ofc you fantasize talking to a child like that

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 24w

Who said anything about fantasizing😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 24w

Projecting

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 24w

Behaving like a child for….asking a question regarding something we all experience? I would never go into another marginalized community and shut down their voices and talk over them. Gain empathy and knowledge

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 24w

Who tf is this “marginalized community” that you’re protecting??

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 24w

Uhh women??

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 24w

You keep making up things to be mad at

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 24w

Ew pervert

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 24w

😂🤣😂 You think that women in America are a “marginalized community”? That 50% of the population is somehow “marginalized”????

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 24w

Have you ever read a book before. Have you heard of the patriarchy? Open the schools

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 24w

Lmaooo ts is hilarious 🤣

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 24w

i work at a busy grocery store near a freeway and transit station (so kinda sus at times) and i see what you're talking about all the time. it's just learned behavior for most women to jump to defend other women. men don't seem to be as invested in defending strangers cuz i don't think they relate as much to that social dynamic - if somebody grabs a man's butt against his wishes he's probably gonna swing, not call over his boys

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 24w

Thank you, idk why these men try to deny our experiences and act clueless. It’s so frustrating

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 24w

Usually showing/ mentioning studies is more helpful then just stating.

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 24w

I was talking about what I know happens to women bc I’m a woman. Not studies

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 24w

I mean I’m a woman too but not everyone has the exact same experience. If you want to ask why and have a productive conversation about something you can mention your own experiences AND studies that prove it’s not only you who has experienced this

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 24w

jfc 🤦🏽‍♀️

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 24w

I don’t know a single woman who hasn’t experienced this, we shoudnt need studies for men to hear us out and not gaslight us. If they want to look up studies to see that’s on them

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 24w

What? I don’t understand what I’m missing here

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 24w

We shouldn’t need a study but they asked for proof and we have it. If you are going to make a claim you should be able to back it up

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 24w

Right after he was engaging in bad faith and being incredibly dismissive. He didn’t truly care, he wanted to win a “debate”. why would I waste my time. And I wasn’t making a claim, I was asking a question 😭

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