Ask Men on Sidechat | Why do so many of my male friends live such boring lives? I promise I’m not trying to be a misandrist, I’m a dude. I feel as if my female friends are far more “interesting”. Why is this?

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Ask Men 21w

Why do so many of my male friends live such boring lives? I promise I’m not trying to be a misandrist, I’m a dude. I feel as if my female friends are far more “interesting”. Why is this?

Anonymous 21w

Idk not even tryna be biased as a guy here but I feel like it’s usually the opposite. I spend most of my free time being active outdoors, writing, drawing, making things, making music…etc. most of the girls I know prefer to stay in and watch a show or go get food or something which is totally fine, to each their own, but I personally find it a bit boring.

Anonymous 21w

Probably because you’re a guy and you have similar interests and qualities to other guys and it’s just “normal” meanwhile a girl may have other types of hobbies that you personally don’t do or see because they may be seen as more feminine. Maybe. Taking a gamble on this one.

Anonymous 21w

i’ve found the opposite to be true in my own life so i suppose it just depends on your friends

Anonymous 21w

Likely just the kind of guys you hang out with. My guy friends are writing, learning music, going to exotic places and building cars, while I’m just work school gym repeat

Anonymous 21w

Wdym by interesting?

Anonymous 21w

I help friends with a t-shirt/sticker company they started a few months ago. This weekend I went kayaking after taking samples from that same river to send to a non profit to stop companies from dumping waste. Went to a baseball game Monday and am having a barbecue in my backyard today. But I didn’t do anything yesterday so I guess man can be boring sometimes.

Anonymous 21w

this isn’t misandry in the slightest💀

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Anonymous

#2 21w

I’m curious if it is a girl/guy dynamic or just the people we happen to know

Anonymous

#6 21w

damn that triggered yall😭

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Anonymous

#2 21w

I think it's who you know. The women in my life are fucking badass

Anonymous

#8 21w

What do they like to do?

Anonymous

#2 21w

Rock climbing, one is working with a team trying to reintroduce buffalo to the west, conservation, one is super into roller blading, one of my friends make indie films, leading extended youth outdoor courses, fly tying, one is into rodeo, another is a wildfire firefighter

Anonymous

#2 21w

I also work in EMS so the women are absolute beasts. They all do boxing or Ironmans and know niche things about farming chemicals and equipment, guns etc

Anonymous

#8 21w

Damn yeah that’s super cool! Where do you find these women lmao 😅

Anonymous

#2 21w

I sorta think you attract who you are. If you like fishing you go fishing and meet people within that community. Some of it is chance. I only started boxing because my coworkers do. You just gotta put yourself out there and be interesting as well

Anonymous

#8 21w

Bruh my point is that I’m doing all that but the girls around here aren’t :/ I mean where are y’all from generally?

Anonymous

#8 21w

you’d think. i do a lot of that stuff but where i’m from, most people i know are just looking to get plastered when they hang out. trying to get my friends to even go hiking requires like a month to make something happen and half of them end up flaking. partly because our schedules conflict but i’m also just in a major deficit of friends who don’t just wanna go out🫩 and i like to turn up but not all the time. im fr the healthiest and most active person i know and it makes me really sad:(

Anonymous

#6 21w

I think you can def do both but I understand being frustrated when that's all your friends want to do. Some of the people who go the hardest in their niche hobbies I know also party the hardest but it's tough when it's only the latter. Everything is about balance

Anonymous

#2 21w

I mean there are 100% girls everywhere who do shit like I mentioned and a bunch who don't. I know a mix. I think no matter where you go there's a bit of everything. I'd find it hard to believe that there's zero girls in your general area that have 'interesting' hobbies. My friends are from all over. Some of them I mentioned live in Montana Utah Colorado etc but others that I've mentioned live in NY Vermont maine, Texas Oregon etc. Even internationally. I'd say it's less about geography

Anonymous

#8 21w

yea i dont party nearly as hard as i used to cuz i got into lifting and def wouldn’t be where i am rn if i still did😭 so i try to save that for one day on the weekend if i do but it also means im on my own most of the week🙃 (i also live in tennessee so it’s a lil different out here lol)

Anonymous

#6 21w

I promise you there's cool people in Tennessee!

Anonymous

#8 21w

oh there are, my nash friends are pretty cool but the selection in knoxville is 🤏🤏🤏 small town