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What does it mean if a guy flirts a crap ton with you, hangs out with you, and spends a ton of free time with you but then starts asking how to flirt with another girl?

Anonymous 18h

He’s either into you and trying to gauge a reaction to see if you are actually into him OR he just likes flirting bc it is fun and that’s all it was. This happens to men all the time. Like ALL the time women will flirt for fun and then run when actually pursued. You can literally just ask him! It’s okay to get rejected!

Anonymous 18h

he might be trying to get you to “stop” him from trying to go to that other girl. Idk why i seen some ppl do this, they’ll dump effort into girls (flirting, etc) and bring up another one so that the original girl can get jealous and “keep” the guy, which may or may not be his goal in the first place. He just needs that confirmation that his effort is not going so waste. (If this is what hes doing.)

Anonymous 23h

This is really confusing, and I'm honestly not sure why he'd act like that because I rarely act that way even with people I have a crush on so if I'm flirting with someone, it means I'm really into them. Do you mind if we ask how long you've known each other, what your relationship's been like so far, and how long he's known this woman he asked you for advice on?

Anonymous 18h

Some things are simply unexplainable.

Anonymous 16h

he’s a hoe

Anonymous

#1 22h

We’ve know each other for about two months, we started being friends cause he liked one of my friends but after their relationship failed he kept hanging out with me and progressively getting more flirty. He hasn’t know the other girl very long, a few weeks to my knowledge and they haven’t talked very much. I could also be reading him wrong but I’ve had over ten people tell me that how he’s acting towards me is definitely flirty

Anonymous

OP 20h

I was going to say that it sounds like the one he wants is you, and that he tries to get tips from you so he can do it right, but if there’s a specific girl he talks about then that’s a little different. But maybe he chose an actual girl just to sound believable 🤷🏻‍♀️

Anonymous

OP 17h

Gotcha, thank you for explaining. That is definitely confusing, and I can see why you asked for our take. I think what a lot of people on here said so far seem pretty plausible.

Anonymous

#3 17h

I agree this seems possible but if so, that is really off putting and I don't think he's a good guy. People shouldn't be playing games with anyone but especially not anyone they care for. It says a lot about someone if they're willing to toy with someone else's feelings

Anonymous

#6 12h

Number 6 with the “HOE!” Statement.

Anonymous

#1 12h

true. It can go one of either 2 ways, he’s doing it out of being a POS, and just wants to raise a reaction, or he genuinely doesnt have the courage to ask her outright, “hey are you interested in me? I enjoy the time we have together”. Personally, im super shy but I also dont toy with people. As someone who will never have the courage to make any moves in my life, im just trying to assess whether or not hes using other means. I can sorta understand it, even if i dont condone it.