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Ask Men 4w

Everyone keeps telling me there are good guys out there and I’m definitely it finding them on hinge. So good guys of Yikyak. Where do y’all hang out?

Anonymous 4w

Hope this helps

Anonymous 4w

I’m not a guy but I like to think every man in my life is rly rly wonderful. They tend to be in like the nerdier spheres. Like all my friends are kinda nerdy and generally shyer. Also queer groups with bi men tend to be places with less toxic masculinity

Anonymous 4w

If you’re in college, try the library or a student center like place. Look for a dude who is studying. Chances are they’re pretty good and they’ve got their priorities in order.

Anonymous 4w

At home, mostly. I’ve never been into bars/clubs. Honestly idk how I’m going to meet a good woman :(

Anonymous 4w

Can you tell me where to find a girl like you 😭 maybe that’ll help

Anonymous 4w

If I’m not at home or at the gym, I’m usually sitting somewhere between classes getting work done. It’s really tricky meeting people organically outside of school clubs because there’s barely any third spaces left

Anonymous 4w

I feel like it’s more important to know the red flags of a guy than anything else. Like you gotta play the long game which sucks but it’ll help you figure out whether they want a relationship or just wanna fuck

Anonymous 4w

I’m an okay guy and we’re on Grindr. Only issue is you probably can’t go on there and 75% of grindr mfs are the purest evil known to man

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Anonymous 4w

Idk I just go to the gym

Anonymous 4w

Alt bars (be carful though), the mall, game shops, card shops

Anonymous 4w

go where you hope your ideal partner would be spending their time. so if you want someone who likes comedy shows go there, if you want someone who plays ttrpgs go to a local game night, if you want someone who likes jazz go to a jazz club (they tend to be way more chill and quieter than typical clubs!)

Anonymous 4w

My campus is like 15% very smart and kind and interesting guys and 85% satan spawn so i kinda be gambling daily but u gotta fish out the good ones. Trust those gut instincts

Anonymous 4w

I don’t really go anywhere.

Anonymous

#1 4w

Did not answer my question and all the bi men I’ve met have used their knowledge and emotional intelligence for evil 😔

Anonymous

OP 4w

Wild all the bi men I’ve met have been so kind. That’s so sad. Nerdier spheres are hard to find ig. Maybe some clubs?

Anonymous

#3 4w

No fr I hate bars and clubs 😭😭😭😭

Anonymous

amethyst_bacon 4w

I’m just getting back into fitness and im a little embarrassed to do such a short set in the gym

Anonymous

OP 4w

I’m considering signing up to some in-person dating events. Genuinely don’t know how else I could organically meet women haha

Anonymous

#3 4w

I’ve been to a couple am dithery have been horribly organized 😭 and I did not have a good time

Anonymous

OP 4w

I’ve heard that there’s usually a lot of toxic women, and that there are usually almost no guys there. I’m trying to stay optimistic; I’ll still try to give it an honest shot

Anonymous

#5 4w

See I’m more preppy than alt. And I like nerdy guys but not one who make it their whole personality you know? Like Ben Wyatt from Parks and Rec. like I like anime and webcomics but when I see a guy on hinge dress up as a hidden leaf shinoni it’s just too much

Anonymous

#3 4w

Yeah they’re really bad with ratios. But the girls always show up dressed to the nines and they guys in t shirts and work pants. Like what??? There was a dress code in the event description 😭

Anonymous

OP 4w

God forbid a man have passion for their interest ig 😭/hj. It’s not really my entire personality but when I go out its usually to those type of things unless it’s the park but idk how many people are looking to meet people there. Ig you could also try concerts and events like emo nights

Anonymous

OP 4w

What age range was the event that you went to?

Anonymous

#5 4w

Bro idk what to say to you. I was trying to tell you I’m fine with those interests but the way I like to present myself as well as what I’m attracted to is a more traditional/normie look 😭

Anonymous

#3 4w

Honestly they didn’t have an age range and that may have been a problem too

Anonymous

OP 4w

Ah I gotcha, I didn’t realize you meant that

Anonymous

#6 4w

Yeah. People really don’t feel comfortable coming up to strangers anymore in modern culture either. It just sucks :/

Anonymous

#6 4w

Not only are there no more third spaces, but it’s also widely considered taboo to meet partners in the other places (work/class). Over 3/4 of couples who got married prior to 1960 met through their job or school…

Anonymous

#3 4w

That’s how my aunt and uncle met and my parents keep telling me to get a job at a big company so I can meet more people 😭

Anonymous

#9 4w

I am no longer in college 😭

Anonymous

OP 4w

Ah shit…well maybe still try a library?

Anonymous

#10 4w

Yeah I’m pretty good at noticing them upfront. Too good. I just can’t find any without red flags.

Anonymous

#10 4w

I stay at home way too much 🥲 you’ll see me at work. Maybe passing by in the elevator. In a coffee shop or book store. I like to buy flowers from the guy that sells them in my office building. I made myself go on hinge dates that I already know won’t go well. I’m trying to make myself go out more so I’m on Nudge and Bucketlisters. Museums. Out eating dinner with a friend. I really should get out more too 😓

Anonymous

OP 4w

Yeah I feel you I’m the same way, trying to find more ways to get out of the house and meet people. I gave up on dating apps cause I feel like as a man they’re not good for mental health, it’s just gonna make a dude more desperate the way the algorithms manipulate you. I’ve found it more enjoyable to just focus on the hobbies that I enjoy, so you might have success exploring new groups where people are just doing what they love.

Anonymous

OP 4w

Outdoor activities are a special example that I think is useful cause people are moving so they’re active and active people tend to be more happy

Anonymous

OP 4w

I ain’t gonna say it’s your fault, but you and I both know dating apps just ain’t it. If you want to find a guy, you gotta go where they are. It also depends on what kind of guy you want. If you want someone shy, maybe don’t go looking at a concert, and stuff like that lol.

Anonymous

OP 4w

Whether that’s dance club, surfing, soccer, volleyball, anything that gets you moving