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Ask Men 7w
hell i’ll even ask you guys! how should i go about progressing things w someone new? we’re about to go on our third date
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Girl Talk 7w
how do i make a move and/or let the guy i’m with make a move when we’re on a date in public? like i’m trying to figure out how to move things along
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Anonymous 6w

OP, many guys like me are VERY (overly) cautious about making girls uncomfortable. Especially as a big guy, the last thing I want to ever do is “move too fast”(physically) and make a girl feel uncomfortable. So, we usually overcorrect and end up not being physical for too long. I’m just explaining to show that his lack of contact doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you. Best way to counter this is for YOU to initiate contact for the first time

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Anonymous 7w

Take that small initiative. Touch his arm when he makes you laugh, use your eyes, move your face close to his during the right time, slow down your speech. If he hasnt escalated at all in 3 dates then help him out a little, he’s probably inexperienced. Once he feels that permission to escalate, he’ll pick up the reigns.. hopefully

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Anonymous 7w

How far are you trying to progress

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

really would just like a kiss 🤷‍♀️

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7w

What level of physical touch have yall gotten to already

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

0

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7w

If yall walk somewhere grab his hand, maybe initiate a hug when yall meet

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

You can always just ask him if he wants a kiss. It works

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 7w

I am not opposed to making the first move, but my main issue is not wanting our first kiss to be in public… I don’t necessarily want to just invite him back to my place, so idk what to do? if that makes any sense? maybe someone w personal experience w this stuff could help was my thought process 🤷‍♀️

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7w

How bout semi public. You can order him to walk you or drive you home and then kiss him at the doorstep. It’s a good way to end on a high note

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 7w

yeaaah, i keep coming back to that i need him to offer me a ride lmao

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7w

What if you ask if you can kiss him when you part ways?

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 6w

For example, my ex-gf put her arm through mine as we were walking on our second date. Once I understood that she was comfortable with that, I was much more touchy and everything (and she liked it!)

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6w

If you don’t want your kiss to be public, plan a date where you go to dinner or a movie or something near a park, and when you get out it is night time and you guys walk around the park tonight. It’s kinda romantic and peaceful, and the park will probably be pretty empty at night so it’s kinda private. That’s what I did with my ex

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 6w

i’m not against initiating contact, i am personally uncomfortable with PDA. just wanted to make that point clear.

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