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Do you feel like you actually truly know your guys friends deeply? There's the stereotype that women friends know eachother deeply and talk about very personal things and men just talk about sports or hobbie or their jobs etc.
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Anonymous 18h

we don’t talk much personal stuff… like every

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Anonymous 17h

This is what I hate the most about male friendships as a guy. I wish I could form more male friendships like that.

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Anonymous 17h

i’ve known some guys for decades now and sometimes don’t know more than surface level information about them lol

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Anonymous 16h

Not most of them, but the ones in my current friend group I know fairly well.

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Anonymous 10h

No, not usually. But we have something we value even more. We like each other

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 18h

Does that bother you though? That you might not know important things about people you say you're 'close' to?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 18h

Or does it get lonely not being able to talk about difficult things in your life?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 18h

not really cause we will talk about the important when it really matters. it’s rare but it happens

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 18h

sometimes it doesn’t then i just talk to my sisters

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 18h

What would you consider to be "important"?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 18h

if someone is feeling deperessed or a prolonged negative state. well, normally it’s just emotions we don’t talk about we will talk about new life changes, gf, loss of family member, etc

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 18h

I guess my question is how deeply do you talk about these things? Like is it oh me and my gf just broke up and everyone is like shit man that sucks or do you guys actually get into it like why what happened how are you feeling about it, etc?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 17h

Does that bother you? Do you wish you know more about them?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17h

yes and no, we won’t ask about it too much other than maybe “what happened” but that’s about it. if they want to say their emotions they will yk?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17h

honestly not really i think it’s just more common for male relationships to be centered around doing things (gym, sports, video games, music) rather than talking face-to-face for a long time like women do. i also think lots of men try to save that depth of connection for relationships and like to keep friendships pretty surface-level.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17h

but yeah bc of that (plus the fact i’m single asl) i don’t really feel very close to anyone in my life and that does suck

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 17h

*close friendships I mean

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 15h

Do you really think they will? I know a lot of guys that don't feel comfortable being vulnerable like that ig

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15h

normally my friends do if they want to, it’s not often but it happens

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 11h

I like talking to people face to face a lot or on the phone. I’m also autistic, which makes my friendships different.

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