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Idk how to get a guys to like me im not insanely pretty so I actually have to work for it to get a guy who’s not desperate or mid but I have a good personality im super kind and funny why do men always go for the pretty mean girls?
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Anonymous 13w

Why don’t you go for the mid guys ?

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Anonymous 13w

Go for your looksmatch😭

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Anonymous 13w

i consider myself mid-looking and all those things you described and I think I got boyfriends from being myself and having the mindset of not wanting anything so i never put a lot of pressure on myself if a guy didnt like me back

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Anonymous replying to -> oranguru 13w

i mean mid as in bad personality or rude or what

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13w

not like looks i don’t care about that stuff

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13w

Oh you’re absolutely right then. Never ever date someone that is rude to you or is unable to treat you well. If you do effort into your looks, then it’s also totally reasonable to want someone who does the same. I’m sure there are plenty of attractive (physically and personality wise) men who would be more than willing to date you. But it takes a lot of false starts and rejections sometime

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Anonymous replying to -> oranguru 13w

yeah i get that my anxiety is always setting me back so im terrified of rejection that’s a big issue for me

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13w

I understand that. Just know that people are rejected every day and go on. There is really nothing lost in being rejected — no one will think lsss of you for making an effort to find a partner. In fact, the people that get rejected most often are probably lost likely to end up with a great partner

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Anonymous replying to -> oranguru 13w

my friends always tell me i just need to talk to the people i have crushes on but i always get nervous and don’t know what to say

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13w

Your friends have the right idea. You’d be surprised how many guys are secretly into you - most people don’t approach these days so it’s impossible to accurately judge who likes you

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Anonymous replying to -> oranguru 13w

eh maybe i will then lol im going to my crushes hockey game this weekend probably so if i see him ill try and start a conversation

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Anonymous replying to -> oranguru 13w

If nothing else, you can have a great amount of success if you just talk to potential partners like you were trynng to make a platonic friend

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13w

That’s a good plan, it’s so much easier to talk to people you already know, but aren’t best friends with

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Anonymous replying to -> oranguru 13w

yeah i’m going with one of my roommates and a guy friend so maybe i’ll be easier having friends around

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 13w

what do you mean by that lol

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 13w

that’s good i just get anxious ill look dumb if they say no

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