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yo so if my long distance boyfriend tells me i cant go to therapy or have gay guy friends or go out at all is that unreasonable or…
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Anonymous 6w

Very unreasonable

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Anonymous 6w

He doesn’t want you to go to therapy because he knows any mental health professional will tell you right away to leave his toxic ass. Pull urself and whatever self esteem you got left together and set a higher standard for yourself. you only get one life, don’t waste another minute being with someone that is making it worse.

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Anonymous 6w

we were supposed to get married and everything was so good back at home but now its like he forgot how to talk to me

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Anonymous 6w

i lowk think im the problem for staying and letting him manipulate me but i really just want us both to grow together

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 6w

how do i fix ittt

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6w

Put boundaries yourself and if he can’t accept them then you’ll have to break it off. If he does it now he’ll continue to in the future if you don’t stand up for yourself

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 6w

do you think a man can learn how to love while in a relationship

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6w

Yes, but tbh he seems insecure and controlling

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 6w

ugh hes not even that cuteeee

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6w

Personally Id talk to him about all this and if he can’t accept it then cut him off. Cause ngl that’s lowkey isolating behavior and he might try to increase it

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6w

Well first things first you go to therapy if you feel you could use it. That’s abs none of his business & it’s confidential so it’s not like your therapist will rat you out. He’s right about the “gay” guy friends. But as for going out, i can see SOME boundary drawing being acceptable there, but if he really means at all at all, that really just sounds like an irreconcilable difference. You need to have at least a shred of trust in someone to even have a relationship

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 6w

but he has straight girlfriends and im okay with that… i got him to agree to one night a week lmao… i will be going to therapy

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