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Can men explain why even married women who make more still do double the housework that men do on average?
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Anonymous 7w

This is an individual thing

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Anonymous 7w

not a man but look up the “second shift” it’s a genuine thing studied in economics

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Anonymous 7w

Single women also do around twice as much housework as single men.

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Anonymous 6w

Well firstly your question is skewed, the question isn’t who makes more, it’s about hours worked. Cause a man can work more hours at a lower wage, bring in less money and still have less available time to give to household chores. But the real answer is *men have lower standards for the house*. Women are more socialized to hold a well-kept house as a metric of self-worth and social status. Men generally don’t give a fuck if the carpet gets vacuumed on a weekly basis vs monthly.

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Anonymous 7w

men are lazy source: am man

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Anonymous 7w

Most men compare the amount of housework they do to their dad, notice they do more, and decide that that means they're super egalitarian feminists

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 7w

So this is just a woman thing, not a marriage thing.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

Marriage is truly the funeral of a man’s ambition.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 7w

Interesting claim. I don’t necessarily doubt this, but I’d like to see some study if you have one

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 7w

Sure, here’s one: https://thegepi.org/free-time-gender-gap/ The gap is slightly wider between married couples, but generally it seems to be influenced more by socialization than by necessity.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 7w

Interesting. The article’s whole point is about how women do more of the housework than men, but then it shows that those numbers are identical between married people and single people (like you’re saying), and it doesn’t address that point at all (unless i missed it). That’s a pretty big point to ignore

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 7w

You didn’t actually read the study! Show evidence of your claim actually

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7w

OP considering you just responded - are you the one who downvoted me? I’m curious what you didn’t like about what I said?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7w

Sure! This is directly from the study’s report:

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 7w

It frames the issue as one of gendered socialization, which would be consistent with the findings. It completely debunks the notion that men simply aren’t “doing their share” of the necessary housework because we don’t care about our spouses or something. Rather it suggests that men and women generally just have different ideas of how much housework is actually necessary.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 7w

In other words, OP is angry and wants to scold men for not holding up “our end of the agreement”, but the study shows there isn’t even an agreement to begin with!

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 6w

As a male homeowner who lives alone, I can confirm this.

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