Anonymous #1 4w

i can confidently say that not only one or two men have done this type of thing 😭

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Anonymous OP 4w

Small percentage is the point. And I think it’s pretty obvious why

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Anonymous #1 4w

if it’s a small percentage, then why have me and my friends dated a larger number of assholes than actual nice guys

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Anonymous OP 4w

Bc that’s who you attract.

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Anonymous OP 4w

Because assholes date far more often than actual nice guys. Nice guys respect women’s boundaries more and therefore don’t ask them out meanwhile assholes don’t care about boundaries so they’re more willing to try

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Anonymous #1 4w

what does not asking a woman out have to do with her boundaries lol, that’s just not trying in the first place or that’s a fear of rejection 🥲i would say boundaries is a man respecting rejection and it’s a sign of they can’t handle that in the first place

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Anonymous #1 4w

i feel like you should actually answer this question instead of getting offended that she made a generalization

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Anonymous OP 4w

Well that’s what you think but actual nice men don’t want to make women uncomfortable and asking a woman out risks that. Don’t believe me, ask this community, they’ll confirm

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Anonymous #1 4w

so you are saying that there are more assholes than nice guys if women would feel offput by any guy who asks them out lol

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Anonymous #1 4w

if you are a nice guy then you shouldn’t have to worry about how a woman reacts in the first place, because regardless of what happens you will respect the woman’s decision of whether she says yes or no

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Anonymous OP 4w

No, I’m saying nice guys are a lot more cautious, thus why women don’t date them as much

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Anonymous OP 4w

I’m not talking about what makes approaching a woman respectful or not, I am explaining nice guys’ thought processes. Bare in mind, many women can be assholes too

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Anonymous #1 4w

ngl I have only met one guy who has ever thought this way personally, so it still makes up a minority at least in my experience and my friends experiences, and the guys they are with had the confidence to pursue them too. i kind of feel you don’t have to reiterate out loud you are a nice guy if you can just be one

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Anonymous OP 4w

1. I didn’t claim to be a nice guy 2. I made a poll for you so you can see the results

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Anonymous #1 4w

if “nice” guys had to worry about making a girl feel uncomfortable by merely asking them out then there is obviously a bigger picture here in that they have a reason to feel uncomf with such interactions in the first place, you would think if most guys are “nice” women wouldn’t feel that way in the first place

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Anonymous #1 4w

saying gen speaking

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Anonymous OP 4w

Once again, the reason they feel uncomfortable is because assholes disproportionately ask them out. So then they complain about men mistreating them. Nice guys hear it and leave them alone. Assholes don’t care and continue doing it. Rinse and repeat

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Anonymous #1 4w

then maybe nice guys should acc be nice and not accept the fact that women are being treated like shit from assholes in the first place

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Anonymous #1 4w

if they are letting assholes ruin their chances then that’s also on them, they can influence how their homies act and not a woman’s reaction on being asked out, which is the thing you are putting emphasis on

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Anonymous OP 4w

What are they supposed to do about it other than speak out about it, which many do? 😭 I’m sorry but this has nothing to do with anything you’re talking about rn, I am solely explaining why you have more encounters with bad men than good ones.

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Anonymous OP 4w

FYI most good guys aren’t “homies” with bad ones

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Anonymous OP 4w

I think the results speak for themselves

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Anonymous #5 4w

actually men care more about money than women do on average, it's because men will automatically have respect and look up to other rich men and tend to see having a lot of monetary assets means you're worthy when most women don't care. as long as they are a good person.

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Anonymous #3 4w

This is the most delusional take I’ve ever seen in my life.

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Anonymous #3 4w

Yeah homie you off yo rockers

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Anonymous #2 4w

Well how many relationships have you been in? this is based on my experience with women. as my girlfriend and exes don't/didn't put any value whatsoever on how much money i have. however ik not everyone has the same relationships experiences. so but in my case they really don't care abt it as much as it might seem like they do, and usually the ones who do care abt that i wouldn't make enough to have to worry abt them coming after me anyways

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Anonymous #3 4w

they "gold diggers" only go after the extremely wealthy. im not broke or anything but by no means am i that wealthy, so even though im sure there are women like that out there somewhere in my experience its not your average woman. in fact two of my past relationships my gf has made more than i do. s

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Anonymous #2 4w

unless you are extremely wealthy then maybe it is your experience? what has ur relationship experience been like

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Anonymous #5 4w

i'm genuinely curious why? like why does my experience with actual women make me seem like i'm off my rocker? i can't be an outlier here

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Anonymous #3 4w

You are over half my exes are an ex cuz they only dated me for money also men want money to spend on themselves for their hobbies and projects while women tend to want someone to buy them things

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