
Cuz for me, when I think about my educational journey (med school, mcat, cna classes and research), I get so excited about them. Like fuck man, I’m graduating soon and not even romanticizing, but I’ll have a whole ass degree and I’ll get to study for the mcat. I’ll get to actually worry about it and take that shit
It is fun to think about, but I’m mostly like I wonder what path I wanna take to get to where I wanna be? I wanna be at the top of sales, VP or President of sales, I went from being a sales associate to account executive right now, but I still got a long way to go. How I’m gonna get there, idk, it’ll take a super long time I know but I’m here for the ride
Hell yeah man, that’s the way to think about it. I used to stress so much about things I could’ve done to change where I could’ve been at this time in my life, but recently, I’ve been more focused on what I can do now and like you said, wondering what my path will look like to get where I wanna be.
Honestly man, I’m also worried about getting into medical school. I’m very worried, but that won’t change my goal yknow? I can imagine the disappointment because I used to feel physical anxiety whenever I even think about the possibility of not getting into medical school. It made me nauseous and I hated even considering it, but I’ve come to realize that if that ever happens, my life won’t end.
Sure the people around me will be disappointed and I’ll be disappointed as well, but man, those people aren’t living your life. And as cliche as it may sound, they will never understand the things you experience because no matter how similar experiences are, no one will understand how it feels to walk in your shoes. If that ever happens to me, I’ll break down and maybe crash for a bit, but I’ll just have to readjust my plans for the future.
I’ve come to understand that you can’t represent anyone but yourself and you don’t have to be everything you’re told you need to be, because not being defined as anything also gives you the freedom to be anything. The world is already shit right now, so just might as well say fuck it to every slimy bastards saying anything about your life and ‘what could’ve been’. They will never understand it and the only thing you should worry about is how you want to view yourself.
Your efforts seem wasted and it seems like there’s no other way out, but you have to keep thinking about your own survival. You might be thinking ‘what am I gonna do now?’ Or ‘I don’t know what to do’ and that’s okay, it’s okay to not know what to do sometimes. You have to keep thinking about your own survival because others will as well, but it won’t be in a positive light.
It depends on what field you’re in, but there are some programs to help dull the spotlight on your college grades when you graduate, can I ask what your major is? As for debt, it’s terrible that it’s become to norm to be drowning in a lot of debt, but in my opinion, you just gotta keep doing what you’re doing if loan sharks aren’t on your ass. And by that, I mean worry about what you can affect now and focus on getting positive results and then worry about the future when it becomes the present.
OP… thank you so very much. From the deepest part of my heart, thank you! You just were the single most compassionate person I’ve encountered since it all happened. My own family said that without being a doctor, I was a disappointment. I literally screenshotted your comments because it’s one of the few times I’ve actually felt relief from the weight of failing at my dream.