Anonymous strawberry_hair 1w

If this were true I’d be moving like prime Pete Davidson rather than kissless at 20 🥀

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Anonymous #2 1w

I don’t think kissless at 20 merits a dead rose, maybe half a dead 🥀

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Anonymous oranguru 1w

You’ll make it to bro

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Anonymous oranguru 1w

100%

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Anonymous stanczyk 1w

Granted I think the insignificance of "the little things" is heavily dependent on wether they are done, as failing to do them can make a girl who is interested quickly uninterested. TLDR: I think you brag on your bf because you like him and not because remembering personal trivia is impressive to women. Also doing the little things only matters to sustain interest, not obtain it.

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Anonymous stanczyk 1w

Unfortunately the bar is on the floor. I wouldn’t not have been upset if my man got me something generic for Christmas bc that’s what I expect from a man I’m talking to. Instead he surprised me with a heart felt thoughtful gift. This genuinely made me fall for him tbh bc I had 0 expectation of him getting me anything. Nowadays women don’t expect much, so when men do something small and heartfelt we notice it.

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Anonymous #2 1w

See now why do you think putting in a little extra effort should get you hot famous women.. even average women deserve a little extra effort😭

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Anonymous #6 1w

Would not *

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Anonymous #6 1w

I think he was saying that he would be more successful dating women in his social circles, not the literal women Pete was dating

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Anonymous oranguru 1w

I hope you are right, seems like he wants to date up. That’s what I assume by “moving like Pete Davidson”

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Anonymous #6 1w

I think there’s some of that coded into the message tbh. But I don’t he meant that he wants to date models and actresses, just that he would be able to connect with the girls he’s sees around him that he thinks are cool and pretty, but out of his league

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Anonymous oranguru 1w

Yeah no I think in general we gotta be realistic😀 the bar is so low for women that the “little things” impress us. But be realistic the “little things” aren’t gonna impress someone out of your league😭

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Anonymous #6 1w

That’s why I’m workin on the big things

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Anonymous #6 1w

That wasn’t to comment on the “quality” of women

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Anonymous #6 1w

“Nowadays women don’t expect much” are we actually deadass 😭

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Anonymous #2 1w

these people cannot be serious

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Anonymous oranguru 1w

Honestly? If you remember things like this for friends? It’s a huge deal too.

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 1w

I suppose 🙄 it’s like socialization or whatever

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Anonymous #3 1w

Nah not at all! If you are friends with someone it’s such a good foot. I’ve had male friends mention that if I wanted they’d set me up with someone because I remember things and they’d know I treat them well.

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Anonymous #2 1w

We definitely don’t expect much. Most of us at least.

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Anonymous #2 1w

What do you think we expect?

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 1w

I meant romantically haha. I have many female friends which I don’t like that way but when it comes to romance I haven’t had someone like me back

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Anonymous #8 1w

Nah this guy is so incredibly wonderful to me. I literally cannot think of anything that could possibly make him treat me better.

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Anonymous #3 1w

Oh yeah I know what you mean. It’s hard to find someone. I wish you the best of luck. If you are close with your female friend ask them if they know anyone who’s looking.

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 1w

Unfortunately every one of my friends are too scared to lose a friendship if it goes badly to set people up 😭

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Anonymous #6 1w

Based on what i've seen, women often expect financial stability (which is out of reach for most men nowadays), "emotional intelligence"(mind reading), matching political beliefs(I think you can imagine the issue here), Physical fitness/attractiveness (not a twig or fat, this one is reasonable to want to an extent), "non-controlling" (many women seem to take issue when their bf has boundaries reguarding what he is comfortable with her doing/wearing), attentiveness (fair)

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Anonymous stanczyk 1w

I’m 22 I don’t expect a man to be anymore financially stable than I am. I do not expect a man to read my mind. Wanting someone with similar moral values is completely valid. Women care less about fitness than men do by far. wanting a non controlling man is completely valid. And attractiveness is subjective. Your assumption is wrong but thanks for sharing

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Anonymous stanczyk 1w

I literally dated a man who still lives with his parents and spends all his money on music festivals lmao. Literally don’t care about financial stability when I’m 22 and no one my age is financially stable. I can understand caring about that once you are older and more established but that is definitely not an expectation we have while in college

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Anonymous stanczyk 1w

And what’s the issue with having similar political believes exactly? In this day and age politics is a basic litmus test for morality

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Anonymous stanczyk 1w

That is just not true. I have never met a single woman who expects financial stability at my age or even a few years out. There’s no mind reading with emotional intelligence. Just being kind and aware. If I say something upset me you apologize and fix the behavior. I would do the exact same thing. Also the controlling thing. Yeah I’d be upset if my partner told me what to wear. They can have preferences but I’m putting on the clothes and they are mine. If I said I refuse to be out with a man

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 1w

because of what he was wearing that would also be controlling. You don’t seem to be based in reality, instead just on online discourse.

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Anonymous #3 1w

That’s unfortunately understandable but I hope they work on that fear soon. Because you sound like you’d be a real catch!

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 1w

1) I mean the prospect of financial stability, even if many years down the line 2) I was being facetious, in reality emotional intelligence is not hard, just sometimes unintuitive since men and women think so differently. 3) We don't set boundaries like dress because we don't like our girlfriends doing it in a vacuum, we do it because of other men. 4) It would be reasonable, making concessions is a necessity 5) Most of this is coming from women i know personally (primarily my cousin) or studies

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Anonymous #6 1w

1) It is, the issue is about the political divide between men and women which guarantees that if politics before a relationship must match then many many people will end up single forever. 2) Yep, but women still care about it and that is fine 3) Yes, a genuinely overdependant/controlling partner is very bad, but I think the idea of what falls within reason is too small. 4) Yea

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Anonymous stanczyk 1w

1) I would expect anyone to be financial stable. If I didn’t see that in my own future I wouldn’t date at all. That is an extremely reasonable thing. You don’t want your partner unable to live due to a lack of money. 2) Men and women are not different species. If you cannot act on emotional intelligence that is not a matter of having different thinking, but as an example of not being a good person. 3) You don’t think that as a woman, I am more familiar with the dangers of men then other men are

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 1w

we are FAR more aware of the dangers of men then you are because we experience it. Sure making concessions are necessary but not when it comes to clothing. That would be eating somewhere that isn’t your favorite or forgoing spending time with friend for your partner occasionally. Not clothing. And last of all just because it’s in a study does not mean it’s correct. Especially taking into account sample size, the questions asked etc. You simply refuse to acknowledge another’s opinion.

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Anonymous stanczyk 1w

Oh and also your cousin is one woman. When I say no woman I know has thought of this, I’m talking over a hundred people.

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 1w

Aw thank u! Ur such a kind person the past year or so we have interacted in so glad u found someone

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Anonymous stanczyk 1w

1. If you end up alone forever because of political beliefs you hold that is the fault of you alone 3. Controlling why your partner wears or posts online IS controlling.

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 1w

1) You should look at more economic studies, and again I never said to look for these things isn't reasonable 2) No, but our brains work very differently when it comes to most things (antisocial behavior, emotional/logical thinking, revenge, stress management, hierarchy/equality, even spatial reasoning(studies on this one are interesting if you look at them)), so often it can be simply lacking the emotional intelligence to recognize what needs to be done rather than "not being a good person"

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 1w

3) You are not a man and therefore you do not understand exactly how men think, it isn't just about being worried you could get SA'd. 4) Refer to 3, ultimately most men are not ok with their girlfriends actively seeking male sexual validation from other men at all, but frequently it's via dress(super revealing clothing most often) or social media(thirsttraps). I'm not saying that it's reasonable to be asked to wear a hijab or never show shoulders, but there is a point where it is reasonable.

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 1w

5) I do check sample sizes, for example one that I indirectly mentioned about spatial reasoning this week had around 30,000 participants. If you don't trust the science without proper cause for doubt, I don't think you are capable of being reasoned with. I know things because I read about them (most often in journals) and verify/discuss them with women I know. I am acknowledging your opinion, I just have reason to believe it's wrong or incomplete.

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 1w

She isn't the only one, basically any girl I am or was good friends with I like talking to about women's and men's differences, I just have talked to her the most about it specifically since I basically lived with her and she goes to my school. It may be regional because I grew up in a VERY rural and religious part of the south and what i'm saying isn't rare to see parroted.

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Anonymous stanczyk 1w

No I mean that every single conversation I’ve ever had with you has ended in you refusing to listen to a single thing I’ve said. And you just don’t care. I’ve mentioned multiple times that women don’t dress for male attention and you are still acting if they do. I’ve mentioned flaws in your studies that you’ve sent before and you just left the conversation. You don’t actually care about anything women say, you just want to prove us wrong without an actual conversation.

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