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okay i went on a second date today and we kissed and i'm just not feeling it. however im afraid to tell him bc he told me how he has never makes it past first dates, the girls always ghost him and it was refreshing that i agreed ⬇️
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Anonymous 5w

It sounds like you don’t like him. That’s honestly fine. You aren’t required to keep seeing every person you go on a first date with. Doesn’t make you a bad person. My advice would be honest; tell him that you’re not interested in him that way. And if he wants to, you’d like to stay in contact. Seriously, don’t draw this out or hide the truth, it’ll hurt you both later.

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Anonymous 5w

and followed through with it and i feel like he really likes me and im afraid of being another women to hurt him but im not one to ghost but im not sure how well he'll take it. advice??

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Anonymous 5w

I mean good luck finding a dude into adult novels lol

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Anonymous 5w

it wasn't anything he did wrong, he's really kind and sweet. im physically attracted to him and everything but we don't have much in common. he's really into video games and anime and im into like pop culture and young adult novels, stuff like that. today he spent half the date talking about anime and i understand he's into it but im just not. im just not feeling what he's feeling and i feel like he has to be forcing it bc im not joking when i say we have nothing in common

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Anonymous 5w

by pop culture i meant more along the lines of music, television, film. not like keeping up with the kardashions. 💀 and also there were just a lot of awkward moments and when we kissed it was fine. im not sure why im the bad guy here. it's perfectly normal to not feel a spark, we had two dates.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 5w

lots of people read or at least they should. it's not like it's an uncommon hobby i fear, especially in my career field

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Anonymous 5w

i didn't say that. i said we had nothing in common, he said he wanted to take me to anime convention when i told him i'm not interested in something like that, and when i suggested we find something to watch together he rejected all of my suggestions. he wasn't a very good listener, and i felt like he wasn't interested in me, more of the idea of having a girlfriend. i barely was able to express my interest bc he kept talking abt his.

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Anonymous 5w

it's really disappointing knowing there r circles of adults who don't read.

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Anonymous 5w

i guess i didn't really understand why i didn't like him until i unpacked it, it wasn't so much of a difference in hobbies but his disregard for me

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

Bruh two dates? You def don’t know everything about him, I’d say go on one more,then if you don’t feel it still then tell him that

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 5w

thank you for giving me a normal response and not saying im a bad person lol

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

I disagree with everyone saying you should go on another date when you’re not feeling it, or saying that you’re a bad person for not wanting to go on another date. Your feelings are valid. I agree with #1’s initial point on giving the specific, actionable feedback on what went wrong that you’ve unpacked in this thread to him though. Being candid with him about what went wrong and why you aren’t feeling it will make you different than the other women, and can help him in the future.

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