Anonymous OP 18h

I would be more concerned if my partner was thinking that much about the gender of their friends at all. If yall are friends your friends, gender doesn’t matter like people seem to think it does

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Anonymous #1 18h

Agreed thank you!

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Anonymous #3 15h

So men can’t just be friends with a woman Grow up

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Anonymous #4 13h

It’s like there’s seven of us and (2 girls, 4 guys, 1 other (don’t ask)) out of them I’m the only girl that’s straight and all four guys are straight, one is getting married, other has a long term girlfriend, one I rejected, and the other just friends like everyone else. Besides that I’ve also just always gotten along better with guys.

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Anonymous OP 13h

But that’s because I have a hard time talking to people (especially other girls growing up). I barely read body language or voice tone. Because of this more than half the time I talked to girls they thought I weird cause I won’t react how they expected meanwhile most guys didn’t care so life was just easier. I’d also just rather do more active things that most the girls I did know just didn’t like to do (airsoft vs shopping).

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Anonymous OP 8h

Okay im gonna be really feminist for a second. None of what you’ve mentioned here is innate to gender at all, its all to do with social norms and gendered socialization, which varies a lot more than people usually think about. I also had an easier time talking to men growing up (im transmasc) but as an adult I’ve found a ton of women i can talk to just as easily. If you’re having trouble with body language and tone, you need people who are more clear in their communication, not specifically men

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Anonymous #1 8h

What I mean by all this is you really gotta think about what traits you like in your friends and not tie those traits to people’s genders bc you’ll probably find better friends and be happier if you’re not so worried about gender. And ik its hard bc most other people *are* really worried about it, but you can find communities that aren’t and its really a lot nicer

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Anonymous OP 7h

Sounds like an awesome friend group

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Anonymous #3 2h

There's no reason to assume a guy being friends with a woman means they automatically have to be into her, and I think without context of how those guys are around her and how they feel about her, that's a very gross way to view people you don't know. As User 2 put too, it's immature to assume people can't be friends with people of a gender they can have feelings for so I think you may wanna examine your biases around this.

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