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Could you be in a relationship with a woman who feels uncomfortable with you masturbating and would prefer that you masturbate with her laying next to you or prefer you having sex with her instead?

Anonymous 4w

Yes that’s a very reasonable expectation

Anonymous 4w

Yes, but we wouldn’t live together or have sex before marriage either

Anonymous 4w

Why would you want it happening in front of you if you’re not interested in participating? Get some couch time while you try to make it some travesty, you’re just stirring the 💩 😂😭

Anonymous 4w

Well, sure, that’s manageable since if I’m cranking it while NOT right next to her it’s none of her business so the issue resolves itself. But I would worry about her general state of mind bc if someone’s this… uh, noteworthy-of-outlook, it seems inevitable it would manifest in other ways and impact other things in a way that’s harder to deal with

Anonymous 4w

Same rule applies to her, and I’m not laying next to her doing it while she plays FarmVille, her rule then she’s helping, I’d do the same for her

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Anonymous

#1 4w

Yes, the same rule would apply to her and what if she is cuddling you and kissing you and being attentive to you while you do it? Having sex with her is her ideal preference but if you really want to masturbate then she can just be with you

Anonymous

OP 4w

I feel like you shouldn’t even have to accept that. If someone is gotten ought to masturbate in bed with you but avoiding sex, I’d say there’s something goin wrong in the relationship

Anonymous

#2 4w

Yeah. I just got out of a relationship with a guy who avoided having sex w me and he had a porn addiction. It’s my only relationship ive had and my only sexual experience so I dont really know how most men think about this sort of thing which is why I made the post

Anonymous

OP 4w

Yea. I also meant “horny enough” not “gotten ought”

Anonymous

#2 4w

Yeah

Anonymous

OP 4w

Having a porn addiction is a different level, I’m not saying I’d get out of bed to do it, the way you worded it is no doing it alone, I read that at any time, you’re at work or gone for the weekend then wait until your back, if I have a receptive partner then of course let’s share

Anonymous

#1 4w

What do you mean “her rule she’s helping”.. if she doesn’t consent at that moment then what are you going to do?

Anonymous

#4 4w

Then I’m going off on my own, you can’t have everything

Anonymous

#1 4w

So you would only respect her rule if she helps. The way you said it made it sound like she would be required to help whether she wants to or not

Anonymous

#4 4w

I don’t know the full context but as a woman, if my man stepped away to masturbate while we were hanging out I would be PISSED. Have some self control

Anonymous

#4 4w

The rule is if he wants to he can’t step away, if you’re hanging out and he gets a lil are you saying he can’t then or he has to wait until you’re gone

Anonymous

#1 4w

If my man masturbated right in front of me I’d be absolutely appalled. Do it in private like a normal person Porn has made us forget what is normal behavior and what’s abnormal. You should not have to go to the bathroom to relief yourself in social situations that’s insane

Anonymous

#1 4w

I’d prefer my man to not masturbate in my presence at all, I prefer my man to have decency and self control

Anonymous

#4 4w

That’s what 90% want, only a few wanna be present

Anonymous

#3 4w

Right answer

Anonymous

#1 4w

You misunderstand. I would definitely want to participate. The only issue is if he would rather jack off than have sex with me.

Anonymous

#4 4w

100% agree with you

Anonymous

#7 4w

Why

Anonymous

OP 4w

Too needy