Anonymous #3 4w

then why don't you homeschool them while your wife works?

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Anonymous #5 4w

Honestly, I would. I already have a decent amount of experience with course design, lesson planning and classroom instruction, even though I don’t strictly work in education

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Anonymous #3 4w

So do you plan on marrying rich? how are you gonna afford to raise if you're planning on being a homeschool dad? its extremely difficult to raise a family on a single income....

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Anonymous #5 4w

I’m not coming at this from a place of “it’s a woman’s role to take care of her children instead of working!” I just genuinely don’t understand why anyone would choose to work a 9 to 5 for a boss that doesn’t care about them instead of spending time with their kids and taking care of a home for someone who loves them. The only way I’d consider the 9 to 5 is if I had a loving family to support and return home to.

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Anonymous #5 4w

No, my plan is to work the 9 to 5, not because I like it, but because it’s necessary for the time being. If I had the option to do anything else, I would, but unfortunately we don’t often have a choice.

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Anonymous #3 4w

so lots of people actually are passionate about their jobs and careers AND love spending time with their families. you can very much be both and achieve both, its not one or the other. you shouldn't choose a career path that is gonna make you miserable like that. also not everyone wants kids and even if they do they might not want a lot of kids (me i want one or two) and there is such a thing as TOO much time. you and your kids both need to socialize with people their own age.

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Anonymous #3 4w

and again that's great that you don't aspire to work but again unless you have a large trust fund or rich parents or marry a women who is rich then its gonna be extremely difficult to raise your family. you shouldn't even have kids until you are well financially stable. its honestly abusive to bring a child into poverty

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Anonymous #3 4w

i’m currently a law student. i’m very passionate about the career i plan to have helping people seek justice. child rearing is beautiful but i don’t enjoy being a domestic worker. i’m a people person & i simply need more interaction than homeschooling life could provide. i also see my kids being the same way since they would y’know… be my kids & be influenced by how social i am. it’s a personal choice & we don’t need to shame people.

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Anonymous #3 4w

why are you going into a career that is making you miserable? if you love kids why not go into education?

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Anonymous #5 4w

I didn’t say I’m miserable at work, just that my reasons for working are mostly extrinsic (e.g. paying off student debt, supporting my parents in old age, and being able to support a family of my own if I ever have the opportunity to start one).

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Anonymous #5 4w

I see work as fundamentally an obligation. If you also happen to enjoy it, that’s great, but that’s not the main point.

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Anonymous #5 4w

We live in a world of things that need to be done. Whether or not we enjoy doing them is pretty much irrelevant. The best we can hope for is to direct the fruits of our labor toward love.

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Anonymous #3 4w

for you... i happened to love my job. i met my bf at work, and we both love the job. its the main point for us

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Anonymous #5 4w

Would you do the job for free? If not, why not?

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Anonymous #3 4w

oh 1000%. i'm a character performer/singer at a popular theme park in florida. my whole life i've done that for free or even paid to do it. (i have a bfa is musical theatre). its what im most passionate about is being able to bring stories i'm passionate about to audiences. i'm so lucky i get do that AND get paid. i'd honestly go crazy if i didn't have any creative outlet.

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Anonymous #5 4w

i can't speak for my bf, but he's a photographer. he already also takes pictures for free literally all the time

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Anonymous #5 4w

Dang.

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Anonymous #5 4w

I gave up musical theatre to pursue STEM and now I sit in an empty office formatting html pages for $14 an hour

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Sounds like you made the wrong career decision

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Anonymous #7 4w

Part of me wants to just drop everything and become a priest or a monk, but I know my mom wants grandchildren someday and I don’t want her to be lonely

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Anonymous #3 4w

again you should've chosen something you want to do

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Anonymous #7 4w

And there’s a smaller, more selfish part of me that wants to be a father and have a family just for its own sake, and so I’m not alone in my final years

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Anonymous #5 4w

Some people don’t have the luxury of living for themselves

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Anonymous #5 4w

To the extent that you have that luxury, it’s because someone else lived for you instead of themself.

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Anonymous #5 4w

In other words, someone else bailed you out of the human condition.

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Anonymous #3 4w

Some of us live for ourselves even tho we ain’t got that luxury

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Anonymous #3 4w

It’s ok to do what you want as long as it’s not a danger to someone else

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Anonymous #7 4w

To love is to will the good of the other, even if it diminishes your own. People who only live for themselves, even without explicitly harming anyone else, still rob themselves of that love.

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Anonymous #3 4w

And living for others stop you from living up to your destiny

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Anonymous #7 4w

Living for yourself is an act of self-harm.

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Anonymous #7 4w

Living for others is the greatest calling one can receive

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Anonymous #7 4w

That’s what really keeps me going.

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Anonymous #3 4w

If I was living for others I would be working a dead end job wanting to paint my ceiling red my greatest calling is doing what makes me happy

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Anonymous #7 4w

You’ll never be happier than someone who loves and is loved in return.

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Anonymous #3 4w

If someone who loves me comes along that’s cool but I’m perfectly fine loving myself and living my best life

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Anonymous #7 4w

“If”

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Anonymous #3 4w

Ain’t no guarantee imma meet someone before I go so I might as well live every moment like it’s the last and live for myself

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Anonymous #7 4w

Do you have any idea how much other people have sacrificed for you?

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Anonymous #3 4w

Who my dead brother my abusive dad my neglectful mom my dead grandpa my sisters I don’t speak to or my brother to caught up in his own little world he forgets he has siblings

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Anonymous #3 4w

I got to where I’m at on my own just a broke kid and a dream ain’t nobody sacrificed shit for me

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Anonymous #7 4w

The fact you even exist at all is the result of the herculean efforts of millions of people across thousands and thousands of years all for the purpose of creating a world with just enough room to fit your life in it.

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Anonymous #7 4w

And if that’s not enough for you, God himself loved you so profoundly that he sacrificed his only Son to be tortured and killed for your sake.

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Anonymous #3 4w

Thats all fine and dandy but where are they now, our bodies all end up in the same place when we die

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Anonymous #7 4w

And you want to opt out of this arrangement?

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Anonymous #3 4w

It don’t matter if I live for someone else or if I live for me end of the day I came from the earth and will return to it if I’m givin a big enough reason to live for someone else and make sacrifices I would but until then I’m living for me

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Anonymous #7 4w

Has anyone else died for you?

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Anonymous #7 4w

You have plenty of reason. We all do. We just choose to ignore it because it’s easier to just pretend we don’t owe anybody anything

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Anonymous #3 4w

That’s cuz i don’t owe nobody nothing if i died today the people who would show up would be lookin to collect a check

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Anonymous #7 4w

Sooner or later you’re going to realize that living for yourself isn’t enough. That’s when you become an adult.

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Anonymous #3 4w

Im only here for two reasons out of spite and everytime I try to take my self out I keep waking back up

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Anonymous #7 4w

No, you’re here because at least one person, somewhere, loved you at some point. If it were up to you alone, you’d be gone.

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Anonymous #7 4w

Living for yourself is an act of self-harm

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Anonymous #3 4w

No self harm is an act of self harm living for my self isn’t

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Anonymous #3 4w

And my sister told me I can’t wait till you die after a Samaritan called an ambulance after I tried to drive my car into a tree

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Anonymous #7 4w

Maybe if you were living for someone else, you’d have a reason not to wrap your car around a tree. Living for yourself is an act of self-harm.

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Anonymous #7 4w

If that person was only concerned with living for themselves in that moment, you’d be gone.

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Anonymous #3 4w

I wrapped my car around a tree because my mom said if I give up on my dream to become an engineer she would pay for me to be a process operator after I had to drop out because I couldn’t afford the school I was going to

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Anonymous #3 4w

Living for other people is objectively horrible life advice.

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Anonymous #7 4w

But in the act of calling an ambulance, they decided to live for you, even for just a moment. That person didn’t have to save you, especially since it was your choice to put yourself in that situation. But they decided to save you from what you deserved, because they cared about you more than you care about yourself.

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Anonymous OP 4w

Living for someone else is the basis of love.

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Anonymous #3 4w

They didn’t live for me in order to live for someone you must also be willing to die for them all they did was the right thing nothing more nothing less

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The highest form of love is a lifelong mutual dedication to one another.

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Anonymous #3 4w

You can have a lifelong dedication to someone you love (loyalty) without making it your entire purpose in life.

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Anonymous OP 4w

What other purpose could possibly be greater than love?

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Anonymous #3 4w

Highest form of love is wiling to die for someone not live for them

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Anonymous #3 4w

as someone who grew up religious, you can't apply this logic upon people who aren't also religious. and what you're saying is woefully bad advice. idk where the hell you've been and i would love to live in this utopia where everyone child and person who was born was born into a loving environment but thats just simply not true.

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Anonymous #3 4w

Idk but I know it ain’t love cuz sometimes love ain’t always for the right reasons

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Anonymous #5 4w

and also yes Jesus died for our sins because He knew we WOULD sin. its why you're able to ask for forgiveness. living for yourself is quite essential for i would say majority of people to survive. again not everyone has a loving family, or support system. being an adult is being able to depend on yourself. you can't accept someone's else love if you don't even love yourself?

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Anonymous #3 4w

The fact I didn’t read through all this nonsense & I had to go back to see this was about religion. That’s how you know someone lost the plot entirely with the point. If it’s about glorifying Jesus, don’t generalize it to be “living for other people.” Living for other people generally is bad advice.

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Anonymous OP 4w

Earlier #3 was sitting here talking about working a dead end job & hating life because of other people. Not the same context as being a devout Christian at all. 🙃

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Anonymous OP 4w

no hate like Christian love

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Anonymous #3 4w

Yeah you lost homie doing something you don’t love to appease others isn’t the same as living for someone else or being Christ like

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Anonymous #5 4w

Christians like him are no better than the blasphemous Christians

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Anonymous OP 4w

notice how he stopped responding 🥱

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Anonymous #5 4w

I have Mass in 10 minutes

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Anonymous #3 4w

Sure you do

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Anonymous #7 4w

I literally did have Mass, we read from Acts 5 and John 3

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Anonymous #7 4w

My school only has Mass on campus twice a week

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Anonymous #7 4w

Did Christ not live for others instead of himself?

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Anonymous #3 4w

This explains so much you’re one of the religious nuts at a catholic school

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Anonymous #7 4w

No, a Catholic school would have Mass daily. Our chapel is in the attic of a multipurpose event building, and it’s only big enough to fit roughly 20 folding chairs for pews.

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Anonymous #3 4w

No he died for are sins not live for others

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Anonymous #7 4w

Our

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Anonymous #7 4w

He did both. He lived and suffered for our salvation and then he died for our salvation.

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Anonymous #7 4w

He gave his life for us in the ultimate act of love, dedicating himself fully to his sacrifice.

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Anonymous OP 4w

Where did I say I hated life? I just said my job was boring, but it’s still worth it because I love my parents and I want to make life easier for them.

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Anonymous #7 4w

Dying for someone is the ultimate form of living for them. A full dedication of one’s life to another person, even unto death.

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Anonymous #3 4w

You can’t live for someone if you’re not alive nor is dying for them is a dedication to another’s life

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Anonymous #7 4w

Bro what?? He literally came back 3 days later to continue living for us

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Anonymous #7 4w

If you dedicate your entire life to someone, that means you’ll live and die for them. The fact that you lived for someone doesn’t stop being true once you’ve died for them.

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Anonymous #3 4w

Stop spamming my post.

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Anonymous OP 4w

He’s right. You aren’t a good Christian.

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Anonymous #3 4w

I don’t value your opinion on that.

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Anonymous #3 4w

Your original post was rude. You won’t stop arguing with people. You’re sending out 5 replies to one comment. And I’m done listening to it. Go hang out with all the people you live for & leave me alone ✌️

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Anonymous OP 4w

Of course you don’t. You only value yourself.

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Anonymous #3 4w

you cleary have never been in a relationship, or know what it means to truly "live for another person" like you claim too. i love my boyfriend much but he's his own person and ik he loves me bc he shows me that in many different way. however im not going to fully depend on him for my happiness bc thats would be way too much pressure on him. you're romantic partner should be just that. a PARTNER. not someone who is responsible for your will to live.

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Anonymous #3 4w

If you die for someone that doesn’t mean you’re living for them or that you dedicated your life to them

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Anonymous #3 4w

He did have you no

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Anonymous #3 4w

For some sure it’s an apathetic thing but for me it means live your life for you do what you want as long as what you do brings meaning to you

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Anonymous #3 4w

Neither are you lil homie

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Anonymous #3 4w

You’re pretty selfish lil homie you’re only living for other people to say you did not because you want to or you think it’s the right thing to do and you clearly don’t know what it means to truly love yourself someone or something or what it means to be truly loved

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