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Why are men so nonchalant these days
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Anonymous 44w

Social media and small subsets of women (the smallest crowd is always the loudest) have made it seem like expressing any kind of interest in anything will give women the “ick”

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Anonymous 44w

Chalant is more effort and little payout non has better outcomes

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Anonymous 44w

I prefer to call it “focused on my man goals”

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Anonymous 44w

Rejection often makes you numb

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Anonymous 44w

This group needs a second, specific downvote button for “🙄oh cmon, you already know the answer to this, don’t even play about it”

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Anonymous 44w

Cause I’m depressed and women are into it

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Anonymous 44w

No

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Anonymous 44w

i think its an ego protection mechanism. if they get rejected, they never cared that much to begin with so they dont take as hard of a hit to the ego

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Anonymous 44w

80/20

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Anonymous replying to -> basedgigatruecel 44w

This

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 44w

by better outcomes what exactly do u mean

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 44w

how many times have u been rejected?

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 44w

Like 12 or so. I am a very chalant person, just giving reasons to why I have been in nonchalant stages in my life

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 44w

do you think the rejection may have been for reasons other than you being chalant?

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 44w

This isn’t what I said so idk how to respond sorry

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 44w

i feel like nonchalant has worse outcomes bc it’s so much easier to feel annoyed or stop caring when a guy acts like that

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 44w

It’s a sufficient but not a necessary condition. Chalance isn’t the only reason for rejection (of course) but it will pretty much always get you rejected

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 44w

Omg don’t let them know this 🤗

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Anonymous replying to -> #11 44w

so you think women dont like chalant men?

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 44w

Nonchalant sets the expectations low, they can always come up if we want, but chalant can’t go down from where we start

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Anonymous replying to -> #12 44w

LOLLL but this mindset truly confuses me bc how do u think that low effort = more rewards?? i feel like i would want a man that cares about me and is interested 😭😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 44w

That’s not what said what 😭😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 44w

They like them in the abstract. They like the idea of them. But when they have one, they lose interest in it very quickly

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Anonymous replying to -> #11 44w

??

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Anonymous replying to -> #11 44w

the reason for them losing interest is not because of the man being chalant

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