Anonymous #1 19h

Real af

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Anonymous #3 19h

He eats meat, he does not work out. When I say mega portions I’m talking pizza and pasta and ice cream and sugary coffees from Dunkin or Starbucks

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Anonymous OP 17h

Yeah, bro sounds like a chud

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 2h

Nah, it’s terminally online derangement to act like this is universally toxic. When my ex told me to watch what I eat, it was because I genuinely was eating too much junk food. Sometimes it’s good to have a partner who *checks notes* cares about your well-being more than they care about enabling you.

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Anonymous #6 2h

I hope ur doing ok

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Anonymous #1 2h

K?

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Anonymous #6 2h

I feel like maybe that’s what’s happening, I’ve been gaining weight but I’ve always been a little bit bigger. I don’t eat terribly, I have vegetables and protein every day and drink water and try to have zero sugar stuff for like energy drinks. It’s the hypocrisy that bothers me most, wdym he eats worse than me AND way more?

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Anonymous OP 2h

If you’re a little bigger and still gaining, you can’t be eating that healthy. Look it up; diet is 95% of weight gain/loss. Regular exercise doesn’t increase how many total calories your body burns in a day. My advice is to look more into nutrition (yours and his). Help curb his bad habits and work on your own.

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Anonymous #6 2h

I think it’s hormone related, it happens after I switched birth control medication

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Anonymous OP 2h

Maybe. I’d encourage you to even just ask a quick question to ChatGPT about what the most likely cause of weight gain is for you (explain the birth control and your diet). Regardless of what it says, there’s gotta be something that you can do to improve your health. Everyone can always be healthier, and you should love yourself enough to try.

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Anonymous #6 2h

*or Claude/Gemini/etc I’m not encouraging you to take GPT answers blindly, but it’s easy to google around and fact check what it tells you

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Anonymous OP 2h

I have been trying different diets some to see where I have success, the issue is he has something to say no matter what it is I’m having, it’s either not enough food, not healthy enough (he’s eating the same thing usually) if I tell him I picked something healthy he tells me “I’ve never cared about what you eat, you can have whatever you want” and he gets upset when I mention wanting to do a calorie deficit or go on different diets. I’m going to my doctor soon to discuss the gain and options

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Anonymous OP 2h

It’s easier to see someone else’s flaws/mistakes than it is to see your own. Talk to him about it; maybe he doesn’t see his own flaws. Maybe you don’t see your own as well, too. Idk, yall are just internet strangers to me lol

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Anonymous #6 2h

I will thank you, and I do appreciate your advice about diet I just ran out of room to type lol. I really am trying to figure it out so that is very helpful

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Anonymous OP 2h

No problem. There’s too many perma-single people on here who are quick to spam “dump him/her”. It’s either you vs him, or it’s you and him vs the problem. If its the latter, then communication is almost always the start of the solution

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Anonymous OP 2h

It sounds like somewhat of a communication issue, and somewhat of a projection issue. I think he wants to look out for your health, but also doesn’t want you to do unhealthy weight loss, and also probably feels bad about himself when you try to better yourself. My answer would be both of you go to the doctor together and talk about options for both of you, and try to take it on together as a team and be each other’s accountability buddies.

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