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Ask Men 15h

there’s a person i work with i have a crush on we’ve just been chatting it up there’s another person who makes me uncomfortable who just can’t take a hint would it be wrong or annoying to ask him to have my back against creep

Anonymous 6h

No, although depending on how you ask the colleague you have a crush on, you may give him the impression that you don’t want to be hit on by anyone at work, including him.

Anonymous 14h

Nope not at all

Anonymous 6h

Also, I will say, there’s a good chance the person making you uncomfortable may just not know how to read body language or other indirect social cues or “hints”. It very well may be unintentional on his part without malicious intent. Reading social cues is something that’s not really taught to guys but should be, as many men, especially those such as myself who are neurodivergent, aren’t able to learn this on their own.

Anonymous

#2 6h

I understand telling the guy directly that you aren’t interested can be a safety issue on the chance he is intentionally disregarding your hints with malicious intent, so of course prioritize your own safety. If there is a way to safely communicate with him directly though, where you have someone backing you in case he reacts poorly, just don’t assume that he is intentionally making you uncomfortable or being a creep.

Anonymous

#2 6h

Like consider the very real possibility that he might be completely oblivious to how he is coming across and how you are feeling if it is safe for you to do so.