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as i woman i’ve really struggled with confidence is that a big turn off for men? i workout and stay in shape im a social person and take care of myself but im not where i want to be and my friends have told me it’s very noticeable that i lack confidence
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Anonymous 1d

Not big but confidence is definitely a preference I’d rather have an average but confident woman over a supermodel but self-deprecating woman

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Anonymous 1d

If what you say is accurate, you’re WAY BETTER OFF THAN 50% of women. Just remind yourself of that. Like, I promise you your habits will soon make you a top 10% of women

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Anonymous 21h

That is way more attractive than a woman who is full of herself but does nothing

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Anonymous 20h

A lack of self confidence isn’t a turnoff, but confidence is a turn on. That said, once your in a relationship, the dynamics of how to be present and invested in the relationship usually involve taking initiative, so if you’re gonna have issues with that, then you’re gonna have huge problems in your relationship.

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Anonymous 16h

Low confidence is much more attractive than false confidence

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Anonymous 20h

It’s only really a problem if men aren’t confident. It is gonna cause problems in your relationship though.

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Anonymous 18h

Confidence is attractive to anyone. You’d want a confident man right? I wouldn’t say it’s a big turn off though. I’m with you though as a guy, I often face the same issue, but I feel like having a confident man is even more important to women.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

I agree with this, that said, it’s more attractive if you carry yourself confidently. It’s not a turn off (to me at least) if you open up about insecurities or worries you have. If you’re insecure about your looks with a partner, just try and trust that they like you for you despite any flaws you think you have in yourself

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