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MEN HELP! my man said we aren’t breaking up but he needs time to think. he hasn’t texted me in two days… i left him alone for one full day then texted him to check up on him but kept it short. yet he still has our highlight up ? am i cooked ?
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Anonymous 5d

No clue, this isn’t like normal behavior. I’m assuming he’s going through something and just needs to be unbothered for some time. If he said you aren’t breaking up I’d just trust him and see if he comes around.

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Anonymous 5d

I don’t believe in taking breaks from relationships… but he may genuinely be going through it and just needs to deal with it on his own

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Anonymous 5d

Probably not cooked. If he said you’re not breaking up in that situation he probably means it and said that to make sure you know the worst case scenario is off the table.

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Anonymous 5d

for more info we had an argument before this (we never fight this bad) he said “the fighting weighs down on him especially when he’s trying to figure out his life” and is unsure what to do and he needs to unscramble his mind. i’ve been left for 3 days with no answers and when i text him he either replies very little or just likes my text. he hasn’t texted me first at all so far

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Anonymous 5d

If a woman did this to me then our relationship would be over. You can't just ominously say we aren't breaking up but i need time away from you and then proceed to not say a single thing for days. ‼️relationships are built on communication ‼️ Yes, there are certainly things that you might need to figure out on your own. However, to go voluntarily go completely radio silent is just a unacceptable imo. No one is THAT busy they can't reply to a check up text.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5d

there is no excuse to ghost your gf for three days. sure we don't know the whole situation but if he truly loved her he would want her to help him get through whatever it is that he's struggling with, or at least let her be there to comfort him

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 5d

this also isn't to stay that you need to be attached to the hip with your partner, of course space is good, great even but there is a fine between a healthy amount of space and then just not even acknowledging your partner lol. plus this also shows he wasn't at all concerned abt you during this time. i be texting and tellin my girl everything and she do the same

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 5d

It’s not ghosting though, he communicated beforehand he wanted time and space.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 5d

and i understand that but time and space doesn't = radio silence? at least to me ir doesn't. why wasn't he concerned for her well being and safety? im just saying if a women did this to me, i'd be done. take all the time and space you need shawty.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 5d

Nah as long as she communicated and isn’t getting cracked by someone else, people need space sometimes. It’s not like they went on a break, he just said he wanted some time to himself which everyone needs sometimes.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 5d

i agreed but three whole days?? again why wouldn't you want to talk to your partner for that long anyway?? i miss my gf when we go to work.... im obsessed with her. like yeah we might go that long without physical seeing each other butim still checking in on her and talking to her bc i genuinely love talking and being with her. like her saying loyal is kinda the bare minimum of my concerns. i want her to talk to me and tell me how she feels.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 5d

i feel like if your only concern is that she might be cheating then are you even really dating her bc you like her or just bc you like access to sex? like are tou really trying to tell me you wouldn't mind going three days without talking to the love of your life??

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 5d

What are you talking about 💀 a multitude of successful couples take space from one another after a large fight. Three days is like nothing😭 i’m waiting for marriage so that’s clearly out of the question. I’m just saying that i wouldn’t automatically hate someone because they ask for some space. My only concern would be making her happy, and if I’m causing her to be unhappy and she needs a few days then let her take a few days…

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 5d

my gf and have never had a large fight so again. i also don't think its a bad thing to miss your partner even if they do ask for space. plus im dating for marriage too and a part of marriage is that you'll still have to communicate with one another even on days you might need space.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 5d

Ofc it’s not a bad thing to miss them, but i also wouldn’t tell her to stress over it. There are some parts of life that people just need to do solo. Whatever happens next is out of her hands so i wouldn’t go and try to make this girl stress over something that her worrying won’t benefit

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