Anonymous #1 19w

I was gonna wait until further in the summer to do it if I go through with it

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Anonymous #2 19w

The real answer is if she wanted to she would’ve then, that’s just an excuse to not say no (because who wants to hurt someone? They can be good and attractive but just not what you specifically are looking for, so it seems kinder when you have no valid reason). At the time I just didn’t realize I’d be contacted when that later happened

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Anonymous #2 19w

Personally I meant it when I said it. I mean I didn’t like the person I said it too but even if I did like them my stance would still be the same but I think I would probably add that I like them too in that scenario

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Anonymous #3 19w

WAIT I FORGOT THIS WAS ASK MEN SORRY IM A GIRL

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Anonymous #3 19w

But to be fair adding that you like them back is a different scenario

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Anonymous #3 19w

Oh oops I am also a girl 😭 but OP is a guy asking about a girl so our input still makes sense I think?

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Anonymous #2 19w

Ya that’s y I’m confused bc in OPs scenario she said he’d be perfect for any girl and I personally wouldn’t rlly add anything if I didn’t like him but then she didn’t say he’s perfect for ME so I’m like maybe she’s being nice I can’t tell

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Anonymous #3 19w

For any girl does not include her unfortunately, she just didn’t want to tell him she isn’t interested. I just think she never expected him to want to follow up with her after grad (I didn’t expect a follow up either, I panicked lol). Rejecting someone is hard and this is a soft way of doing it without doing it and feeling too awful

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Anonymous #2 19w

Ya usually guys always ask ur type before they ask u out if u guys r friends before so my go to strategy is to give requirements that def don’t fit them to subtlety tell them😭

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Anonymous #3 19w

Oh this was a stranger (cold approach) so I definitely couldn’t do that. Not sure about OPs situation ofc

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Anonymous #2 19w

Damn how do he even find u again😭

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Anonymous #2 19w

For cold approach they usually stop u and start of with a complement my natural instinct for everyone is just to say thank you and awkwardly look away bc I’m an awkward person and they just naturally walk away with no question after

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Anonymous #3 19w

My number I gave it but rejected the approach right away I just panicked I don’t know 😵‍💫 and flattered to be fair so I was extra anxious

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Anonymous #3 19w

Usually that’s what happens but sometimes they ask for a number and while I reject Instagram/snapchat/etc I don’t care about my phone number (easily found online anyway) and I feel rude declining all forms of communication (I just decline to go out from the privacy of my home)

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Anonymous #2 19w

No I get that it’s so hard to say no when they are being so nice bc then ur like u don’t want to hurt their feelings or confidence

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Anonymous #3 19w

I’ve known her since we were 15 and she’s one of those who thinks her grades will be affected if she’s with someone also we’ve hung out one on one and in group settings and I’ve gotten mixed messages

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Anonymous #4 19w

I’m really not if you knew me you’d know I ain’t shit

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Anonymous OP 19w

So the thing about people who greatly care about their grades (to this extent) is that they’re looking for someone with the same drive. It’d definitely help if you also aced very difficult classes, but if not, then I just don’t know

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Anonymous #2 19w

I don’t have that drive and she knows it

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Anonymous OP 19w

Yeah I’m also someone who very much cares about school, and this is the biggest reason I cannot like a guy back (although the opposite is true — someone originally unattractive becomes insanely attractive after I find out they’re smart) It sucks but the priorities are too different, and everyone wants a partner they can look up to and admire

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Anonymous #2 19w

She knows I’m smart but she also knows I find school very boring

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Anonymous OP 19w

Really just depends on your major and how well you’re doing

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Anonymous #2 19w

Mechanical Engineering with a 3.5

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Anonymous OP 19w

Honestly idk you need a lot of drive to succeed in engineering nowadays. But better than expected! I was worried you were going to say business 😅 Assuming you also graduated, ask again when you have a job? If you do now then you can try. Because anyway this relationship is too one sided given she knows you like her and you’re stuck in limbo of not knowing

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Anonymous #2 19w

I was too harsh a 3.5 is good I’m just a perfectionist as well :( but I don’t see why she’d reject you for that, unless you bring up having no passion or drive a lot, or are negative in general (assuming it’s not appearance? Because then she should’ve just said no rather than not now)

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Anonymous #2 19w

Who would wanna be a business major I’m not graduated yet because I kept changing my major to find one I don’t find boring and this is the one that’s bored me the least but rn it feels like a coin toss because she knows I’m smart but don’t have passion for school the only upside i have in my favor is I’m making big money

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Anonymous #2 19w

For me personally I care a lot about school but more than the grade I want someone in a field I find interesting and they have to also find it interesting. I honestly don’t care about the money

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Anonymous #3 19w

I know She finds it interesting cuz a quarter the convos we have are about mechanical engineering and she’s a psych major

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Anonymous OP 19w

I mean imo though like if u like her i would ask her bc otherwise you will live without knowing. I personally am pretty introverted i would never approach a guy first even if i knew he liked me

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Anonymous #3 19w

I don’t even know how I’d do it

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Anonymous OP 19w

Casually? She says “I like popcorn” and you say “And I like you,” it worked for my friend

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Anonymous OP 19w

Dont do anything too dramatic with a present or something or too public bc then it will put her in an awkward spot if she wants to say no

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Anonymous #2 19w

I don’t think that’ll work for me

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Anonymous #3 19w

I wouldn’t I’d probably just ask her if she wants to grab coffee or lunch

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Anonymous OP 19w

You need to specify it’s a date though or it’s awkward

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Anonymous #3 19w

Omg lowkey if there like a tv guy character she likes a lot u can try to pick up things from him

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Anonymous #2 19w

I will I’m not an idiot

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Anonymous #3 19w

I’m screwed there then

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Anonymous OP 19w

What y

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Anonymous #3 19w

The fictional characters are all great leaders and homelander

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Anonymous OP 16w

Well she cares about hard work

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Anonymous #2 16w

Yeah

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Anonymous OP 16w

I’m sorry good luck in the future though, I think you two may just be too different

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Anonymous #2 16w

It is what it is I’m just gonna keep livin my life

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