Ask Men on Sidechat | let’s say a man’s family is taking advantage of him, like it so bad he can’t afford to buy himself boxers, yet he works all day non stop, and his fam wastes his money like it grows on trees. How do you tell that man his fam is taking advantage of him?

Sidechat

Download

Join communities on Sidechat Download

Ask Men 3w

let’s say a man’s family is taking advantage of him, like it so bad he can’t afford to buy himself boxers, yet he works all day non stop, and his fam wastes his money like it grows on trees. How do you tell that man his fam is taking advantage of him?

Anonymous 3w

Tell him the next time they ask for something to say no and watch how they react to him

Anonymous 3w

If it’s impacting you or the relationship then I’d tell him like that. He would probably want to make things right and maybe more willing to look into therapy

Anonymous

#1 3w

The thing is he can’t say no. Like he used to ask me but now they even hint at wanting something and it’s done. Like he just bought them a new house, they wanted renovations done right away and they could barely afford it, his the breadwinner. He got all their renovations done, even did some himself

Anonymous

OP 3w

Make him do to therapy then bc it isn’t that he can’t say no, but that he most likely feels obligated to provide for them

Anonymous

OP 3w

His parents also require him to give some of his paycheck to them, it’s how it is in our culture. But there was a time when they dead ass required like 75% of his paychecks and said oh back home the son gives 100%, we’re generous. So his father “payed” the downpayment on the house when that money amounted to what their son gave his father since he graduated college

Anonymous

OP 3w

Damn, yeah you’re not gonna be able to get him to stop until he realizes he’s not obligated to. Therapy would be the best course of action

Anonymous

#1 3w

He has a health condition, an illness and his parents sacrificed a lot because of that. I mean he says that, but that’s not true. My sister has a health condition and my parents are doing well for themselves, it’s not an excuse. But he says that he has to do this, like take care of them. I understand that but it gets to a point where it’s too much. Like his sister is out here buying $50 creams every other week, and he only has 6 pairs of boxers. She is spending his money, using his card a lot

Anonymous

OP 3w

I only know cuz I had to use his Amazon for something and my card got saved. His sister bought some things and she could’ve bought them herself but she assumed it was his card. My bf literally paid for some of her lip fillers, and acne laser treatments

Anonymous

#1 3w

How do I get him to go

Anonymous

OP 3w

It’s gonna be hard to convince him to go but if may help if you try doing online therapy to start with to kind of ease into it. I also wouldn’t frame it as “you need it” but more as “let’s just get an outside opinion”

Anonymous

#1 3w

What kind of therapy? Cuz idk it’s taboo in our culture. I don’t want to be the evil girl separating him from his fam, and I might be viewed if I say anything that’s why I haven’t. Idk how to even bring this up.

Anonymous

OP 3w

Idk, it may be worth it to research and find the best kind for your needs

Anonymous

OP 3w

If he can’t say “no” then he isn’t a man. It’s that simple