Anonymous #1 5d

Ofc we’ve talked about it lol we’ve been talking about it for years. He just thinks the way we are is normal and healthy for long term relationships at our age.

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25 and 28. Like both settling into our careers and getting life plans figured out. The relationship is just no longer his priority, it’s something he takes for granted. It feels like he thinks he already has me locked down so there’s no need to try (we’re not even engaged or permanently living together).

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Anonymous stanczyk 4d

I don’t think that’s true. I’ve watched so many of my friends be obsessed over by their boyfriends/husbands. When I say obsessed I don’t mean like at an unhealthy level I mean like they’re attentive and value your opinion/intelligence and can’t keep their hands off you, and generally just KNOW YOU very well and have the natural urge to make you happy without it being forced.

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Anonymous stanczyk 4d

I say thank you for EVERYTHING bruh I even thank him for brushing his teeth and doing his own dishes when I’m not home 😭

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Anonymous #4 4d

What do you mean like threaten to leave?

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Anonymous OP 4d

Make him jealous mainly if that doesn’t work you lost him a long time ago because he is not affraid of you leaving

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Anonymous #4 4d

Wym make him jealous? Like spend time away from him?

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Anonymous OP 3d

Oh hell no. Please talk to him about it. A date night every now and then should keep going and even if ur time becomes occupied with other priorities, the time that u DO spend with ur partner should be nurtured. Imagine u marry him and it gets to THAT exhausting point, where most relationships fizzle, of having kids while trying to maintain a career- u def should have a convo about little things to keep the romance going

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Anonymous #6 3d

We have date nights all the time though. And we take weekend trips just the two of us several times a year. It’s not that we don’t spend enough time together or talk enough it’s more like he doesn’t really focus on ME just the activities we’re doing or the conversations we’re having. We spend almost every waking moment together (besides when we’re each at work or with other people or having alone time) just because we’re each others favorite person to hang out with.

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Anonymous OP 3d

Like we are undoubtedly each others best friend in the world, but there really isn’t much romance from his side.

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Anonymous OP 2d

Oop well then yeah u should start distancing urself healthy in ways and start invest in yourself if that makes sense. He may still love with u but he might be TOO comfy to put in the romantic effort and that’s never good. Also don’t let him get used to projecting any issues he has with his work life onto your relationship or that will forever be a strain. But ya u should distance urself in ways that show that you could leave if u wanted but you’re here cause u love him.

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