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How would you describe the male equivalent of a “pick me” girl?
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Anonymous 4w

Any kind of “I’m not like other guys” behavior. Also guys who play the tragic victim or otherwise actively try to fish for sympathy from women. Particularly the guys who constantly do it; there’s a difference between “being vulnerable” and just seeking pity. The worst are guys like this that also think they’re the MC

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Anonymous 4w

Any guy that has a mustache and a mullet im sorry but they simply don’t have opinions of their own

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Anonymous 4w

Here’s an example of a pick me on yikyak

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Anonymous 4w

Any man who refuses to violate the consensus. Fence sitting is an enormous red flag. If he doesn’t offend you a little bit, he’s putting on a show.

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Anonymous 4w

Anyone who says they thought the Bad Bunny halftime show had no flaws. If they can’t at least realize production fucked him over with a bad mic and bad audio quality, they’re lying just to fit in with social norms lol

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Anonymous 4w

Is that not just a performative man?

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Anonymous 4w

Performative

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Anonymous 4w

I'm a girl so sorry but to me its men who are weirdly obsessed with body count / virgins. there was this guy on here a few months ago, i haven't seen him in a while but i've also been less active so he could still be around that would post on AskWomen all the time asking them abt body counts, and even went so far as to post (outdated) statistics that women with less body counts are being for long term partnership and its just weird to me to be THAT concerned abt ur partners past relationships.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 4w

Ik this is niche but I promise you it’s true

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 4w

Most posts by guys saying they’re into chubby girls are pick me btw, sorry not sorry but most of those guys are just fetishizing and would never actually date someone chubby or treat them well if they did since it’s a fetish thing for them and not actual love. That sounds harsh but I think it needs to be said more since people can end up in bad relationships with manipulative people. I’m not saying guys don’t date anyone chubby, just don’t trust a guy who says that’s why they like someone

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 4w

Like if they genuinely are in it for the person and not the body, they won’t have to mention the body type every other sentence. Same goes for every body type, not just chubby fetishization

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 4w

It’s like how guys will be like “yeah I like virgin girls” and it’s weird but a guy who genuinely doesn’t care either way will never bring it up at all

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 4w

I don’t really think that’s pick me tho? Cause “pick me” would be appealing to women to get with them/win them over

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

Ik who ur talking about tho he is a weirdo

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 4w

like obviously i think its a conversation that needs to happen especially for health reasons and everything but if a guy doesn't want to date bc you're either not a virgin or because you are a virgin, i always take it as a red flag. mature guys aren't threatened if a girl has more experience than he does, and i feel like men who really want a virgin want one bc they are insecure abt their own lack of experience.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 4w

it kinda gets into fetish content like what three was saying. like sexual experience is very personal and not something everyone is comfortable disclosing early on. so its weird to me when guys openly say things like how they want a virgin, especially if its an older man.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 4w

better* not being

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

imo they're are two different types of men pick mes. the guys that are like r/niceguy who say things like "i guess women don't want a man who will pay for their dinner and pump their gas" and then they guys who put women down bc they want to see them fight for their approval. that's like the red pill/andrew tate fans. with the guy im talking abt he would constantly get into heated arguments with women, and im 90% sure he was exactly where he wanted to be.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 4w

I just wouldn’t say that’s a pick me imo

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

fair enough, to me it felt like he was so desperate for women to agree with him so i kinda saw it as a pick me

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